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5. Right and wrong.
There’s likely to be a lot of discussion about who was “right” and who was “wrong.” If you made a mistake, say so up front. (Often it's good to put as much in writing as you can about what you did, when, in case it comes up later and is subject to his "selective memory.") If you did something because of lack of knowledge say, “I didn’t know that at time.” Don’t apologize.
6. Eliminate ordinary "fluff".
Be analytical, logical and direct. Since they are relatively insensitive, direct comments you might make to someone else, will bounce right off their tough hide. Their ends justify any “means,” including disregard for others. They don’t respond well to “I’m sorry,” or “How are you feeling today?” They just don’t like it, that’s why.
7. If you’re sensitive, you may need to find somewhere else to be. Period.
To average alpha male, you’re “a breathing body” and that’s about it. He may not even bother to learn your name as he barks orders.
8. Stay neutral and don't admit to a weakness.
While it works with most people to say, “I’m learning this job and have a ways to go,” to an alpha male, this is like waving a red flag to a bull. Stick with details, “Yes, I see. It won’t happen again.” (Or say “Yes I hear you” or whatever your listening to his vocabulary has taught you.)
9. Avoid appearing (or being) submissive.
If you do, you'll lose his respect. Don’t be intimidated by his anger. The basic reason is probably because it makes him feel good, so there’s not a thing you can do about it. More than any other type, don’t try to change him. It won’t work. (If you do try, get something like a 360 - evidence from everyone else is all he'll believe.)
10. Don't waste his time.
Which is most of normal niceties and social amenities.
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