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And don’t confuse personal feelings with private affairs. Topics having to do with money, conception and child-rearing, politics, or in-laws should not be included in wedding vows to be overheard by your guests.
Incorporating traditional pledges
Although much of what you will write will be unique to your relationship and therefore highly personalized, you may want to include meaning parts from traditional vows that are a part of your culture.
While most of wording is their own, many couples continue to incorporate familiar love, comfort, honor (though usually leaving out "obey" part) wording into their vows.
Rehearse before your wedding day
Since this is a special occasion, you should give it all of time and attention it deserves. Practice reading aloud what two of you have written. This is true test that what appears on paper is what you really intended to say, in way you intended to say it. Rehearsing will also allow you to determine how long exchanging your vows will take and whether adjustments are needed. If wording sounds awkward or if it is difficult to read, change it.
Don’t rely solely on your memory
A case of nerves can strike unexpectedly, and at most inopportune time, so make sure your precious words are written down. Once you are satisfied that your wedding vows express exactly what you wanted to say to each other, it is time to finalize your draft. The final copy, preferably two or three, should be printed using a fairly large font size, which will make it easier to read.
It is a good idea to give a copy to clergyman, at least several days before ceremony is to take place. If a severe case of nerves does strike, it may be he who will need to read your vows.
Personalize whole ceremony
Aim to keep time it takes to exchange your vows between one and three minutes. To extent feeling of a ceremony that is a celebration of your unique love, have a family member or good friend offer a carefully selected prayer or reading as part of ceremony. You can also choose music that is both appropriate for occasion and especially meaningful to two of you.
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