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2.Moral Responsibility: You are always morally responsible to those with whom you have a relationship
This begs question as to when a relationship begins. You have graduated from coffee shop to seeing a movie together. He wined and dinned you and asks you to join him for a barbeque with his friends. While this is not a marriage proposal, it is nevertheless personal. No red flags have popped up yet and you accept invitation. This has potential of an evolving relationship. Now is time to get to know more about him instead of looking over shoulder for other hot guys. Here is why: often relationships between dating singles never develop because they are occupied with multiple dates.
Investing your time in one date also helps you decide sooner if you should cut loose. Sleeping with multiple dates is morally irresponsible to each one. If idea of you running into your new guy flirting with another woman has little appeal to you, donít put him in that situation either. Be as responsible as you would be to your best friend, because he may be that some day. If things donít work out, at least you have maintained your integrity.
3.Authenticity: Love only happens when you are real
Have you ever found yourself laughing simply because everyone else did? Agreed with someoneís opinion even though you didnít share it? Told your lover you had a fabulous time when you didnít or said: ďI love youĒ when you didnít mean it. In other words did you ever do something inconsistent with your true self just to please someone, get attention or get what you wanted? Of course we all have. We have lost bravery to be real! For many there is quite a gap between person inside and person they present to world. In competitive world of dating misrepresentation is at an all time high.
If you are searching for love, forget about dating rules and how to make him fall in love with you. Forget about Mars and Venus, we are all from same planet. In real world we are all human beings first, men and women second. Most singles over 50 seek love and a sense of belonging. For this generation love sells as much as sex does. Wear what makes you feel like a million dollar babe, not what you think impresses him. While you are not expected to disclose your sexual history on a first date, be straightforward on topics you are comfortable with. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Feel free to ask him about things that do not invade his privacy. Be authentic, be real and be you. Donít waste your precious time pretending to be what you are not. You may not land many second dates, but at this stage it is not about quantity, rather about quality. As a 50 plus single you still have many years of life left, but donít forget that good years may be numbered. If you just want to date go and have fun. If it is true love you are seeking stay focused on being best of you. Love only happens when you are real.
These three universal principles are no-fail dating concepts that keep you sane and on road to love. To boost your dating success, Ivana Trump is adding a bonus for all fabulous, mature women out there. In her new TV show she will introduce older women to younger men. Sounds like Demi Moore style of dating is gaining popularity. With quite a few older men dating much younger women, Ivana is orchestrating a balancing act. Love has no boundaries, love is ageless and it keeps you young. Maybe Ivanaís reality show will get you in groove.
© 2005 Allie Ochs, Relationship Expert, Coach, Speaker and the Author of ďAre You Fit To Love?Ē ISBN 0-9720227-9-1. Her articles are published in numerous magazines and newsletters. She has appeared on radio and TV. Visit her website at www.fit2love.com to order her book or for FREE relationship/dating advice e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org