Women and Self EsteemWritten by Maggie Vlazny, MSW
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Poor self esteem often results in depression and anxiety. Physical health suffers as well. Many times, women with this problem don't go for regular checkups, exercise, or take personal days because they really don't think they're worth time. Relationships are impacted as well. Their needs are not met by their partner because they feel like they don't deserve to have them met, or are uncomfortable asking. Their relationships with children can suffer if they are unable to discipline effectively, set limits, or demand respect they deserve. Worse yet, low self-esteem passes from mother to daughter.The mother is modeling what a woman is. She is also modeling, for her sons, what a wife is. In workplace, women with low self-esteem tend to be self-deprecating, to minimize their accomplishments, or let others take credit for their work. They never move up. Finally, with friends, they are unable to say no. They end up doing favors they don't want to do, or have any time for. They end up going where they don't want to go, with people they don't want to go with! A woman with low self-esteem has no control over her life. But that can change. These women can get help and emotional healing. It is criticial to remember that no one deserves to be abused. If something bad has happened to you, it does not mean there is something wrong with you. The responsibility for abuse lies with person who chooses to hurt you. If you are presently being abused, you must put yours and your children's safefy first. If you think you are in danger, you can call your local domestic violence hotline number (the Connecticut number is 1-888-774-2900). You can choose your own identity. You can discard popular cultural image and replace it with something real. As I read someplace once, "We are bound by our fate only as long as we accept values that determine it." Nobody is perfect, but everyone is worthwile. Believe in yourself.
Maggie Vlazny is a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and RCI Singles coach practing in Fairfield County, Connecticut. She has also written and presented a mental health series on Monroe (CT) Cable Television. See more about Maggie at www.therapyct.com or contact at maggie@therapyct.com
| | Sharin' Food With WomenWritten by Ed Williams
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2. If a woman wants your food badly enough to eat some off your plate, why doesn’t she just order item in first place? That’s never made sense to me - I’ve even asked a couple of ladies in past why they didn’t just do that, and I was told, “I only want a little, and you should be glad that I want to be close enough to you that I even want to share food you eat.” Well, that sounds romantic and all, but here’s how it really works out. If a lady takes something from your plate, eats it, and likes it, she’s gonna knock a major hole in your helping. A major hole. The worst thing is, more she eats, more she’ll protest that she just wants a bite or two. Famous last words. You’ll end up with a plate with not much food on it, and she‘ll be so full that she falls asleep on you during trip back home. On other hand, if she takes something from your plate and doesn’t like it, she still leaves behind a small hole in your plate. Then, you have to deal with fact that your food is cold from all conversation that has occurred up to this point. Either way, you’re out of food, money, and are still hungry afterwards. So ladies, I love ya’ll, but please stay hell away from my plate. We guys need a few things that we can enjoy alone - stuff like going to bathroom, ultimate fighting on TV, and food on our plates. If you ladies will promise not to interfere with these three things, then we’ll gladly promise to stay meek, hen-pecked, whupped types that ya’ll have come to know and love...
Ed’s new book, “Rough As A Cob,“ can be ordered by calling River City Publishing toll-free at: 877-408-7078. He’s also a popular after dinner speaker, and his column runs in a number Southeastern publications. You can contact him via email at: ed3@ed-williams.com, or through his web site address at: www.ed-williams.com.
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