While husband is advancing himself vocationally, or rising in his company, wife busies herself getting up church suppers and organizing flower shows which consume her time and energy, but do not show up in either pay check or her vocational standing.

Yet such advantages are not always enough to keep husband ahead. If difference in ability is marked, it speedily becomes known.

Such a situation may be concealed by a polite little conspiracy to maintain fiction of male superiority, but everyone knows to whom to go, to get things done. In our day this fiction is becoming more difficult to maintain.

More and more wives are going back to work as soon as their children are old enough to be left by themselves, and are getting real money and recognition.

In some instances, wife will outstrip her husband. The problem often becomes a real issue at time when her income exceeds his.

My feeling is that soundest marriages are those in which husband and wife are on about same level of intelligence. We may think that problem will be serious, only if girl is markedly superior, but this is by no means necessarily true. The girl who marries a man who is intellectually far superior may face problems quite as serious. She will be safer if she chooses a man more nearly on her own level, so that through years relationship can most easily be maintained.

There is just as much chance that wife will be superior to husband, as other way around. All who marry should face this fact. Actually there is no more justification for a man feeling embarrassed because his wife is superior, than there is for a wife to feel embarrassed because her husband excels her.

In any case, character and personality are far more important, provided each of couple is intelligent enough to do a good job.

According to ancient traditions, word "honeymoon" is based upon practice of newlyweds drinking mead, called bride ale, which was produced from fermented honey. This beverage was consumed during first month (and therefore "moon") of marriage. The fermented drink supposedly increased virility and fertility and, consequently, first month of marriage was referred to as honeymoon. It is only within last 50-60 years, however, that honeymoons have gained wide popularity. With so-called "honeymoon destinations" emerging--Cancun, Hawaii, Caribbean, Tahiti, Italy, Las Vegas, New Orleans--these post-wedding trips offered ordinary citizens a taste of what it was like to be wealthy. Chances are good that honeymoons are here to stay.

Romance is not just roses and candles. If you are adventurous newlyweds there a many ways to enliven your honeymoon. Scuba diving, snowmobiling, parasailing, skydiving, or couples' bungee jumping are a few of ways to spice up your honeymoon and return home with unforgettable memories of that golden getaway.

An important word of advice: don't be afraid to mention fact that you will be honeymooning when you're making reservations for a restaurant, hotel, or cruise. Announce it when you arrive. Tell everyone! You're happy and you're in love. Special accommodations and gifts, ranging from upgraded rooms to flowers or free champagne are often given to honeymooners.