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While husband is advancing himself vocationally, or rising in his company, wife busies herself getting up church suppers and organizing flower shows which consume her time and energy, but do not show up in either pay check or her vocational standing.
Yet such advantages are not always enough to keep husband ahead. If difference in ability is marked, it speedily becomes known.
Such a situation may be concealed by a polite little conspiracy to maintain fiction of male superiority, but everyone knows to whom to go, to get things done. In our day this fiction is becoming more difficult to maintain.
More and more wives are going back to work as soon as their children are old enough to be left by themselves, and are getting real money and recognition.
In some instances, wife will outstrip her husband. The problem often becomes a real issue at time when her income exceeds his.
My feeling is that soundest marriages are those in which husband and wife are on about same level of intelligence. We may think that problem will be serious, only if girl is markedly superior, but this is by no means necessarily true. The girl who marries a man who is intellectually far superior may face problems quite as serious. She will be safer if she chooses a man more nearly on her own level, so that through years relationship can most easily be maintained.
There is just as much chance that wife will be superior to husband, as other way around. All who marry should face this fact. Actually there is no more justification for a man feeling embarrassed because his wife is superior, than there is for a wife to feel embarrassed because her husband excels her.
In any case, character and personality are far more important, provided each of couple is intelligent enough to do a good job.
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