Why Won’t He Listen!

Written by Carol M. Welsh


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See and listen:Through your ears. Can concentrate better if you turn your ear towardrepparttar speaker and take notes.Through your feelings. Absorb feelings behind words. What they say is not as important as how they say it. With your eyes–eye contact important. No-tice “what’s wrong” withrepparttar 130303 picture or scene. Can hear/feel/see what others are expressing. Quickly perceiverepparttar 130304 whole picture–may jump to conclusions. How you…Audio FeelerVisualWholistic Learn:By thinking through ideas and facts until you understand. By doing and practicing until it’s done correctly.By looking at illustra-tions, step-by-step pic-tures, demonstrations.By identifyingrepparttar 130305 “gist” of something, then trying it out. How you…Audio FeelerVisualWholistic Approach sex and romance:Foreplay not very important. May lack passion, sex may be mostly mechanical. Afterward, might ask if it was “good.” Foreplay is everything: cuddling, flirting, laughter, gentle wordsWant to feel cherishedA sharp, ugly word will ruin it.Settingrepparttar 130306 scene, romantic foreplay, may be more important thanrepparttar 130307 final act. It’s “making love” rather than just sex.Creative, passionate lovers. Like to be flexible, according torepparttar 130308 mood. Like spontaneous sex ReactionsMeHimMeHimMeHimMeHim Your initial…Audio FeelerVisualWholistic You’re your hot button is pushed, your initial reaction is driven by:ANGER: shown asimpatience, sarcasm, explosive temper, take suggestions as criti-cisms, exert pressure but can’t take it–“get off my back.”INDIGNATION: get stuck emotionally – can’t let go, martyr, vacillate between blaming others and feeling guilty, feel unappreciated, cry.FRUSTRATION: feel justified to point out faults of others if dis-appointed, easily hurt by criticism, self-critical–withdraw, userepparttar 130309 “silent treatment.”RESENTMENT: be-come moody, irritable, impose your opinion, meddlesome/manipu-lative, point out other’s defects to justify your own behavior. MeHimMeHimMeHimMeHim Total Scores:Audio FeelerVisualWholistic

The highest score is your primary perception, which hasrepparttar 130310 strongest influence on how you respond to other people’s actions or reactions. If you want him to listen, change how you approach him based on his style. Finally, to get him to remember what you tell him, it needs to be important to him – how does this information affect him? If it’s simply information, he might not remember to pick uprepparttar 130311 laundry. But if it’srepparttar 130312 suit he is going to wear torepparttar 130313 party that night, be sure to express that. Otherwise, he needs reminder notes just like we do.

Carol Welsh, M.S. is the author of “Stop When You See Red.” She has over 25 years experience as a speaker and is a frequent guest on talk shows. Website is www.stopred.com.


The Monogram Theme Wedding

Written by Blake Kritzberg


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Ifrepparttar bride keeps her own last name, one option is four-initial monogram (bride’s first, bride’s last, groom’s last, groom’s first). Or just joinrepparttar 130300 couple’s first names with an ampersand (Jenny & Mike).

Some etiquette tips: It’s somewhat frowned upon to use your couples monogram before you’re actually married. So, your reception’s clearly a green light, but you might want to skip using it on your invites. The ceremony itself is sort of a Ms. Manners gray area. Some brides upholdrepparttar 130301 spirit (if notrepparttar 130302 letter) ofrepparttar 130303 “law” by includingrepparttar 130304 monogram in a not-so-public ceremonial spot, such as a garter, or insiderepparttar 130305 dress.

Of course, these being modern times, some brides just includerepparttar 130306 monogram wherever and whenever they want!

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An easy project:repparttar 130308 DIY monogrammed aisle runner It’s not hard to create your own monogrammed aisle runner, and it makes a big splash. If you have a sewing machine, you can buy and hemrepparttar 130309 fabric for next to nothing. Now you just need some fabric paint in black or your wedding colors, a pencil, an exacto knife and some cardstock. You also need to decide where you want to placerepparttar 130310 monogram. Some aisle runners feature a monogram atrepparttar 130311 bottom, whererepparttar 130312 procession begins;repparttar 130313 top, whererepparttar 130314 couple stands; and inrepparttar 130315 middle.

Print out your monogram and blow it up to your desired size on a copying machine. (If your aisle fabric is onrepparttar 130316 sheer side, you can now trace your monogram directly ontorepparttar 130317 fabric with pencil. Fill in with fabric paint, and you’re done.) Otherwise, taperepparttar 130318 enlarged monogram ontorepparttar 130319 cardstock and cut outrepparttar 130320 shape with an exacto knife. Trace inside your new template lightly with pencil. Fill in with fabric paint. Followrepparttar 130321 same procedure to make your own monogrammed table runners or even chair covers.

The dance floor monogram A dramatic and memorable way to include your monogram is to project it ontorepparttar 130322 dance floor duringrepparttar 130323 reception. As fun as this is, though, it’s not cheap and sometimes not easy. To project a monogram, you need to buy a custom metal plate, called a “gobo.” Custom gobo manufacturers are easily found online. The gobo itself usually costs over $100, but once made, you then need specific lights equipped with a pattern holder to userepparttar 130324 gobo. It’s possible that your venue, or your DJ, will be able to provide these lights or help you locate a place from which to rent them.

A final tip Now that you have some ideas for incorporating monograms in your wedding, rememberrepparttar 130325 essence of elegance is restraint. It’s easy to overdo monograms, so mix them up contrasting touches, such as soft and romantic floral arrangements, to warm uprepparttar 130326 monogram’s cool and classic feel.

About the Author Blake Kritzberg is editor at "FavorIdeas.com." Stop by for a huge selection of wedding favors, Bridezilla's weekly adventures, and free resources for brides: save-the-date eCards, screensaver, wallpaper and web site templates. http://www.favorideas.com


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