The highest score is your primary perception, which has strongest influence on how you respond to other people’s actions or reactions. If you want him to listen, change how you approach him based on his style. Finally, to get him to remember what you tell him, it needs to be important to him – how does this information affect him? If it’s simply information, he might not remember to pick up laundry. But if it’s suit he is going to wear to party that night, be sure to express that. Otherwise, he needs reminder notes just like we do.

If bride keeps her own last name, one option is four-initial monogram (bride’s first, bride’s last, groom’s last, groom’s first). Or just join couple’s first names with an ampersand (Jenny & Mike).

Some etiquette tips: It’s somewhat frowned upon to use your couples monogram before you’re actually married. So, your reception’s clearly a green light, but you might want to skip using it on your invites. The ceremony itself is sort of a Ms. Manners gray area. Some brides uphold spirit (if not letter) of “law” by including monogram in a not-so-public ceremonial spot, such as a garter, or inside dress.

Of course, these being modern times, some brides just include monogram wherever and whenever they want!

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An easy project: DIY monogrammed aisle runner It’s not hard to create your own monogrammed aisle runner, and it makes a big splash. If you have a sewing machine, you can buy and hem fabric for next to nothing. Now you just need some fabric paint in black or your wedding colors, a pencil, an exacto knife and some cardstock. You also need to decide where you want to place monogram. Some aisle runners feature a monogram at bottom, where procession begins; top, where couple stands; and in middle.

Print out your monogram and blow it up to your desired size on a copying machine. (If your aisle fabric is on sheer side, you can now trace your monogram directly onto fabric with pencil. Fill in with fabric paint, and you’re done.) Otherwise, tape enlarged monogram onto cardstock and cut out shape with an exacto knife. Trace inside your new template lightly with pencil. Fill in with fabric paint. Follow same procedure to make your own monogrammed table runners or even chair covers.

The dance floor monogram A dramatic and memorable way to include your monogram is to project it onto dance floor during reception. As fun as this is, though, it’s not cheap and sometimes not easy. To project a monogram, you need to buy a custom metal plate, called a “gobo.” Custom gobo manufacturers are easily found online. The gobo itself usually costs over $100, but once made, you then need specific lights equipped with a pattern holder to use gobo. It’s possible that your venue, or your DJ, will be able to provide these lights or help you locate a place from which to rent them.

A final tip Now that you have some ideas for incorporating monograms in your wedding, remember essence of elegance is restraint. It’s easy to overdo monograms, so mix them up contrasting touches, such as soft and romantic floral arrangements, to warm up monogram’s cool and classic feel.