Why Receive Christian Pre-marital Counseling?

Written by W Melendez

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It is certainly natural for a marital counselor to talk about spiritual intimacy. Inrepparttar book, The Five Love Needs of Men and Women, Christian marital experts Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg explain how there are two kinds of intimacy in marriage, physical and spiritual. Differences in religion could lead to a lack of understanding and different values. But not everything is religion.

Counselor Grisel López of El Sendero de la Cruz Christian Church in Puerto Rico explains that even inrepparttar 136405 case thatrepparttar 136406 couple is ofrepparttar 136407 same religion, some couples do not have compatibility of ministries. For example, if both are church leaders, and one sings inrepparttar 136408 altar andrepparttar 136409 other preaches, they are compatible. But if one is training to be a foreign missionary andrepparttar 136410 other is a pastor of a local church, then one ofrepparttar 136411 two will have to give up his or her dreams forrepparttar 136412 success ofrepparttar 136413 other, because they can not make both dreams come true and live together happily atrepparttar 136414 same time.

She adds that even church leaders, who knowrepparttar 136415 Bible in general, still need pre-marital counseling. Some churches do not require pre-marital counseling for church leaders becauserepparttar 136416 leaders know Christianity well, yetrepparttar 136417 divorce rate for Christians is aboutrepparttar 136418 same as for non-Christian marriages.

According to Dr. Wayne A. Mack, some ofrepparttar 136419 things covered in pre-marital counseling are relations with in-laws, making a budget together, comparing differences inrepparttar 136420 way each one expresses love, good communication (a factor in most marital problems), and conflict resolution. It is important to plan ahead how you will approach problem solving, not waiting forrepparttar 136421 problems to begin and then start by seeking marital therapy. This is because there will be problems anyway so reducing their volatility will prevent bad memories that are hard to forget later.

Dr. Mack’s workbook, Preparing for Marriage God’s Way, can be used both in addition to marital therapy, (or independently, for those persons who live in areas where there is little availability of Christian pre-marital therapy). Two copies ofrepparttar 136422 workbook are used. Each member ofrepparttar 136423 couple reads and fills outrepparttar 136424 answers individually. Thenrepparttar 136425 couple meet and discus their answers together. Mack suggests they can make note of significant differences and seek therapy for those issues as well.

Pre-marital counseling can be fun also. You get to take personality tests with your betrothed, learning more about each other inrepparttar 136426 process. Or it could lead to more deeper and interesting conversations to talk with your loved one. Some people think they already know each other well. But even people who have been married twenty years face surprises.

You should also find out some of your betrothed’s faults inrepparttar 136427 process. There may be faults that you understand about, this is called unconditional love. But there could also be faults that you do not tolerate. Some things are not negotiable like giving little importance to fidelity. Others might not matter to one husband, for example, that his future wife likes a relaxed style of housekeeping, as long as she is a business woman, but it could matter a lot to another man. Counselor Grisel López teaches thatrepparttar 136428 best way to find your ideal love is to tellrepparttar 136429 truth about how you are so you can find someone who will be happy with you instead of turned off. If you do not reveal your faults you will not know if it is safe to relax your guard with your betrothed and findrepparttar 136430 joy of being loved as you are.

Joshua Harris’ book, Boy meets Girl; Dr. Wayne Mack’s workbook, Preparing for Marriage God’s Way; and Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg’s book, The Five Love Needs of Men and Women; are available in English atrepparttar 136431 author’s Christian Bookstore link: http://www.family-moment.com/cgi-bin/view.cgi/wm246863/storeframe.html

Wilma Melendez has been a born again Christian for 18 years. She attends El Sendero de La Cruz Christian Church in Puerto Rico and is a counseling student of their Theological Seminary. She studies the Bible auto didactically using books from her online Christian bookstore: http://www.family-moment.com/cgi-bin/view.cgi/wm246863/storeframe.html Her home page is at http://www.webspawner.com/users/howtopray/

The Hypnosis Session - How it Works

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The conscious mind has no memory and it is very slow when compared torepparttar subconscious mind, and can only consider or think of one thought matter at a time. · Subconscious Mind The subconscious mind constitutes ninety-five per cent ofrepparttar 135416 brain. It is fully attentive whilstrepparttar 135417 conscious mind is awake and active, going on ‘standby’ during sleep, when its method of functioning is through dreams. It containsrepparttar 135418 memories and emotions from every experience we have ever encountered. It is able to retrieve stored information required byrepparttar 135419 conscious mind and it is also able to bring torepparttar 135420 conscious mind’s attention any other linked factors stemming from past experiences that it perceives as relevant.

Whenrepparttar 135421 subconscious mind feels that a strong enough reason exists to counter a decision ofrepparttar 135422 conscious mind, then it will cause a reaction that it perceives as more appropriate. It is this action that causes phobias, panic attacks, unwanted habits, fears,repparttar 135423 loss of confidence, etc.


A particular form of hypnotherapy that can be helpful where: · There is so little medical understanding ofrepparttar 135424 pain problem that no diagnosis can be made. · Diagnosis is known but problems are extremely difficult to manage with either drug or surgical treatment. · Only short term relief is possible with other methods, or side effects of other methods are unacceptable.

Hypnohealing is a natural healing method which encouragesrepparttar 135425 body’s own healing process. The self-healing stems fromrepparttar 135426 subconscious mind that knows whatrepparttar 135427 body needs to be healed, it simply needs guiding torepparttar 135428 right area ofrepparttar 135429 body.

Hypnotherapy enables us to have direct communication and to persuaderepparttar 135430 subconscious mind to concentrate extra healing effort onrepparttar 135431 area concerned, especially ifrepparttar 135432 condition is considered to be of emotional/psychological in origin.

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