Why People Overcommit

Written by Tara Renee Settembre

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“Ideally, I’ll get more done because I won’t have classes,” she said. Likerepparttar study’s participants, she believesrepparttar 105764 future is nearly “limitless.” But on reflection, she conceded “That’s probablyrepparttar 105765 problem.”

Zauberman says that although surveyed participants believed that both time and money would be more available to them in “a month” than “today,” they believed it more strongly for time than for money. He believes people are less optimistic when it comes to their finances and are more aware of their expenses because of planned payments like reoccurring monthly bills.

“Money is more planned, but time is less predictable” he says. “You deal with expenditures of money more regularly but things come up that you never plan.”

Kaufman says she can plan her finances well, but admits that she tends to overbook social events not realizing that she will most likely be equally busy inrepparttar 105766 future too.

“You never really know how long something is going to take, and it usually takes longer than you expected,” she observed.

Ghada Khalil, 27, an NYU graduate student of media studies has a different take. She feels that atrepparttar 105767 current moment,repparttar 105768 things you are doing seem dull. She thinksrepparttar 105769 future offersrepparttar 105770 promise of excitement.

"The idea ofrepparttar 105771 future gives me hope, sometimes being inrepparttar 105772 now is not exciting," she said while sitting in a student lounge and coincidently writing a to-do list for her class work.

The actual study appears inrepparttar 105773 Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, Vol. 134, No. 1

Tara is currently going for her masters degree in journalism at NYU and working in PR. She freelances articles for tri-state publications and writes a daily blog, When Tara Met Blog www.tarametblog.com

Emotional Intelligence: The Basics

Written by Michael G. Rayel, MD

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When he gets angry, he just can’t control himself. He yells, bangsrepparttar door, throws fits, and punchesrepparttar 105763 wall. In addition, he calls his wife names and puts her down. Eventually, he has physically harmed Cynthia. Due to his uncontrollable anger and physically abusive behavior, Cynthia has decided to file a divorce.

In this example, Richard has failed to recognize his ongoing anger and its associated behavioral consequences. Because of his inability to recognize his anger and consequent behavior, he has failed miserably to contain his anger despite signs that his wife doesn’t want to put up with it. In addition, he has failed miserably to recognize and understandrepparttar 105764 feelings of Cynthia. How could he? He can’t even recognize his own.

Emotional intelligence can therefore become an important tool at home and at work. By learning its basic tenets of self awareness (knowing one’s emotions), self management (controlling one’s emotions), social awareness (recognizingrepparttar 105765 emotions of others), and relationship management (social skills), people can make use ofrepparttar 105766 emotion to advancerepparttar 105767 positive cause of our families and communities.

Copyright © 2005. Dr. Michael G. Rayel – author (First Aid to Mental Illness–Finalist, Reader’s Preference Choice Award 2002) psychiatrist, and inventor of Oikos Game: An Emotional Intelligence or EQ Game. For more information, visit www.oikosgame.com and www.soardime.com

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