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Why did you have a bad day? ___ A) Did coffee cause it? B) Did your daughter cause it? C) Did Policeman cause it? D) Did you cause it?
The answer is d. You had no control over what happened with coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look through window and see your child getting on bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet staff. Your boss comments on how good of day you are having.
Notice difference. Two different scenarios. Both started same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply 90/10 secret.
=> If someone says something negative about you, do not be sponge. Let attack roll off like water on glass. You do have to let negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.
=> How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you loose your temper? Pound steering wheel? (A friend of mine had steering wheel fall off!) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let blue car ruin your drive. Remember 90-10 principle, and do not worry about it!
=> You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. Use your "worrying" energy and time into finding another job.
=> The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for day. Why take out your frustration on flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
You now know 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at results.
** (C) 2001, Arlen Busenitz. Arlen is a free lance writer ** specializing in people skills and personal improvement. ** Discover the Secret to Making People Like You-- Free ** http://www.Magic-People-Skills.com?90:10 ** Mailto:Ab400@juno.com