Who's the You Running Your Life?

Written by Keith Varnum

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"Now as an adult, I long for honest, expressive relationships with co-workers and employers-and playful, truthful relationships with friends and lovers. But my own unconscious behavior sabotagesrepparttar openness and intimacy I so deeply desire. I try to get people to talk about themselves without revealing anything about myself. I pretend to not know information that I do know. And I look for attention and love from other people by getting sick and playing helpless and spacey."

The Ex-Flower Child

"At first my new job delivering flowers was right up my alley. I enjoyedrepparttar 126219 time driving gave me to be with myself. Thenrepparttar 126220 management changed our original agreement and required that I work more hours and drive longer distances for less pay. Running on my childhood programming, I kept my resentment to myself and became moody. I felt like a victim, taken advantage of, powerless. I pouted and whined to myself. When I talked torepparttar 126221 boss, I was angry and copped an attitude. It wasn't long before I got fired."

Who'srepparttar 126222 You Who Makes You Do?

What do YOU do to try to make friends, stay safe, fit in, be loved? Until we undo these conditioned strategies,repparttar 126223 decisions we made when we were children run all aspects of our lives inrepparttar 126224 present: from relationships and health to finances and work.

You can easily discoverrepparttar 126225 automatic behaviors that are running you. Scan through your life. Make a list ofrepparttar 126226 challenges you encountered throughout your life. What arerepparttar 126227 specific, unique problems you had to face at your home, school, college, job-and with your parents, relatives, friends, teachers and co-workers? What personal strategies did you develop to get yourself throughrepparttar 126228 challenges of your journey? Are you still using similar tactics? Are these approaches successful?

Intuition torepparttar 126229 Rescue

The good news is that when you identifyrepparttar 126230 past programmed strategies that don't work in your present life, you can create new strategies that do work. The once necessary kid tactics that kept you safe and balanced-like training wheels of a bicycle-can be discarded. You are now capable of keeping yourself balanced and safe usingrepparttar 126231 guiding wisdom of your intuition and acquired life experience.

Successful Alternatives Surround You

Exciting and playful alternative strategies are all around you. Lots of people have discovered original, creative ways of dealing with situations similar to yours. Fresh ideas and models are demonstrated inrepparttar 126232 lives of truly happy and successful people. With keen eyes and perked ears, you can glean fun and compassionate life strategies from biographies, interviews, TV, movies, books, news, magazines and advice columns. Seek out a mentor, shaman or other personal advisor. Let your intuition guide you to an inspiring workshop or professional coach.

Good luck. Have a good time creating new approaches to life that work!

After what you've been through, you deserve it!

Drawing from the wisdom of native and ancient spiritual traditions, Keith Varnum shares his 30 years of practical success as an author, personal coach, acupuncturist, filmmaker, radio host, restaurateur, vision quest guide and international seminar leader (The Dream Workshops). Keith helps people get the love, money and health they want with his FREE “Prosperity Ezine” at www.TheDream.com.

Whatever You Fear Has Already Happened

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, The EQ Coach

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Childhood lasts a long time forrepparttar elephant, as it does forrepparttar 126218 human. They have much to learn about survival and their culture. They’re dependant on their mothers, emotionally and physically, for 3-5 years, and often aren’t weaned til their 10th year. Why this long dependency? Because they aren’t born knowing how to survive, they must learn it. Similar to humans and apes, much ofrepparttar 126219 elephant’s brain development takes place after birth. This allows for (and demands) learned behaviors, not just instinctual behavior.

Like humans,repparttar 126220 elephant is born with minimal “innate” knowledge. For instance, it’s only through watching adultsrepparttar 126221 elephant learns its trunk can be used to pick things up, or scratch or drink with.

Now what ifrepparttar 126222 young elephant calf, with it’s new brain (“impressionable”) is captured and its leg chained to a stake inrepparttar 126223 ground that he can’t pull away from no matter how hard he pulls? And atrepparttar 126224 same time, he’s scared. Scientists are discovering that fear andrepparttar 126225 memory get stored together inrepparttar 126226 cells for a long time. Once coupled with fearful events, they continue to fire in unison long afterrepparttar 126227 original event is over. At an early age,repparttar 126228 elephant has learned “helplessness,” that when that thing’s on its leg, no matter what it does, it can’t get away, so eventually it gives up and quits trying. And there stands that 7-ton animal tethered by nothing, really, except its fearful memories.

Has this happened to you? (Think about it.) Could coaching help? (Think about it.)

Susan Dunn, MA Psychology, The EQ Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . Individual and business coaching, distance learning courses, the EQ eBook Library - http://www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html . Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for FREE eZine.

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