If you are like most people, what you experienced is a wonderful feeling of aliveness. Rarely do we allow ourselves opportunity to enjoy moment. But moment is only reality we know. It is exactly way it should be and it cannot be anything more than that.

But we repeatedly make it out to be different. And by doing so, we have lost opportunity to fully experience rain, children playing, learning to be achieved by listening to world seen through a grandparent’s eyes, or a friend sharing one of his or her own moments. Too often we are too caught up in what will happen, or what has happened, to experience what IS happening.

This is not to say that planning for future is unimportant, or that reminiscing is not useful and enjoyable in itself. But unfortunately, too often we become entangled in a future that has not happened and become stifled by our predictions.

We run from saber tooth tiger that no longer exists in our modern day world. The tiger has been replaced with confronting a friend, giving a speech, driving over a bridge, or feeling discomfort from changing a habit. We create absolute horror from an uncertain future that we make real in moment.

Staying in moment awards you opportunity to see world as it is, not as you believe it should be. It allows you to observe truth, to look at real data, not information couched in fears and anxiety.

And it is this truth, which will allow you to enjoy yourself, others, and world around you. Because, it is exactly as it should be. You can manage any life event that presents itself. Why?? Because everyone does. You can choose to do it with pain or without pain. The evidence for these statements is present in moment.

Your immediate thoughts are: “What an idiot! People like that shouldn’t be allowed to drive!! He’s an accident waiting to happen. They ought to lock him up!!”

The word –should- creates anger because of its demanding nature. Simply stated, situation is history. Yet, by saying it shouldn’t happen you’re demanding that reality not exist as it does, lousy as it may seem. Bottom line: it happened as it should based upon all events that led up to it happening.

Instead if you approach situation without demands then your reaction will change appropriately. You may wish he didn’t drive that way, you may prefer it, but he’s driving that way…so don’t deny reality of it!

It may be illegal, but it’s his choice to drive that way. You’d feel much better to accept it and not demand anything to contrary.

This works for anything in life. When you “should on somebody” you’re creating anger for yourself (or them) when it is totally un-necessary.

When you knock off demands, shoulds and oughts, you’ll notice a difference. It would be nice if things always went way you want them to go, but that isn’t reality, so become more tolerant by listening to your own thoughts and you’ll start to see anger withering away.