What is your PROBLEM? There Must Be 50 Ways to…

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, cEQc, The EQ Coach™

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When we’re in an emotional situation, we can be “flooded” and unable to think clearly. We get “hijacked.” How do you ask for a raise? You ask for a raise. And it can really get painful to be hung up that way.

“It grieves me so to see you in such pain,” she continues inrepparttar song. “I wish there was something I could do to make you smile again.”

He says he appreciates that, and would she please explain aboutrepparttar 126184 50 ways?

Slip outrepparttar 126185 back, Jack Make a new plan, Stan You don’t need to be coy, Roy Just listen to me.

Hop onrepparttar 126186 bus, Gus You don’t need to discuss much Just drop offrepparttar 126187 key, Lee And get yourself free.

And then she has a good idea. “Why don’t we just sleep on it tonight,” she says, and then she kisses him, and he “realized she probably was right … there must be 50 ways to leave your lover.”

Smart girl! Emotions motivate us. We will sit onrepparttar 126188 fence untilrepparttar 126189 pain gets too bad in one direction, orrepparttar 126190 expected pleasure too great inrepparttar 126191 other direction.

And when we getrepparttar 126192 feelings that motivate us, we discover there must be 50 ways to …

Asrepparttar 126193 poet said, “Kisses are a better fate than wisdom.” Emotions are our guides. That’s what Emotional Intelligence is all about.

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Examples of Emotional Intelligence from Popular Songs

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, cEQc, The EQ Coach

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5. The Baptism of Jesse Taylor (The Oak Ridge Boys) / Social Responsibility, Self-Management, Authenticity

From now on Nancy Taylor can proudly speak to neighbors and tell them how much Jesse took up with little Jim. Now Jimmy’s got a Daddy, and Jesse’s got a family, and Franklin County’s got a lot more man.

6. Rhythm Guitar (The Oak Ridge Boys) / Interpersonal Skills, Teamwork

He’s written a song about what’s gone wrong, and I’m singin’ it to you now. Nobody wants to play rhythm guitar behind Jesus, Everybody wants to berepparttar lead singer inrepparttar 126183 band. It's hard to get a bead on what's divine, when everybody's pushin' forrepparttar 126184 head ofrepparttar 126185 line.

7. He’s Gonna Smile on Me (The Oak Ridge Boys) / Resilience, bouncing back and retaining hope and trust through adversity

I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth. Often there were times when I had to go without. I’ve been called a fool, and used just like a tool, but I still believe inrepparttar 126186 Golden Rule. And right now I’m so happy as I can be.

8. Tell Him (The Exciters) / Communication, Verbal and Nonverbal

Take his hand in yours and tell him that you’re never gonna leave him. Tell him, tell him, tell him, tell him right now.

9. Rose-Colored Glasses (Jon Conlee) / Learned Optimism, which is not always reality-based

These rose-colored glasses that I’m lookin’ through, show onlyrepparttar 126187 beauty, ‘cause they hide allrepparttar 126188 truth, and they let me hold on torepparttar 126189 good times,repparttar 126190 good lines,repparttar 126191 ones I used to hear when I held you. And they keep me from feelin’ so cheated, defeated, when reflections in your eyes show me a fool … these rose-colored glasses …I’ll just keep on hopin’, believin’ that maybe by countingrepparttar 126192 many times I’ve tried, you’ll believe me when I say I love you, and I’ll lay these rose-colored glasses aside.

10. Come a Little Bit Closer (Jay andrepparttar 126193 Americans) /repparttar 126194 three Fs – fight, flight or, canoodle ? (fromrepparttar 126195 reptilian brain comes those powerful ones -- territorial defense, aggression, violence, lust and fear)

She was sitting there giving me looks that made my mouth water, so I started walking her way. She belonged to that man Jose, and I knew, yes I knew, I should leave, but then I heard her say, “Come a little bit closer, you’re my kinda man, so big and so strong, come a little bit closer, I’m all alone andrepparttar 126196 night is so long." We started to dance, in my arms she looked so inviting, and I just couldn’t resist just one little kiss so exciting. Then I heardrepparttar 126197 guitar player say "Vamoos, Jose'’s on his way," and I knew, yes I knew I should run, but then I heard her say ...

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