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6. Make impact known. How would a "yes" or a "no" impact you? Does person you are asking know impact of a "yes" or a "no?" Small things can and do have a profound impact. So get clear on impact a "yes" or a "no" will have on you. Share this information with person you are asking.
7. Honor his or her requests. You're not only one who wants to get what you want. Others want to hear "yes" and have their needs met, too. If you consistently give others what they want, you will get what you want more often. The key is to give and do what someone requests...not what you *think* they want. A word of caution here - do not over give to point of being unappreciated.
8. Don't ever nag. Nagging is a way of making same request over and over in order to wear person down and force what you want. Nagging might sometimes get you want in short term. But it always backfires because it creates intense anger in both one being nagged and one doing nagging. If you need to repeat a request more than once, do so in spirit of ideas above.
9. Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate. When you get what you want, make a big deal out of it. The giver just made you feel good, so return favor. The more you appreciate, more other person will want to give to you and do for you. In fact, even if you do not feel appreciative, act appreciative. After a while, you will begin to feel appreciative.
10. Cure the, "I shouldn't have to ask you to do this" syndrome. Ok, how much do you resent asking someone to do something they should have known to do in first place? Don't you get angry at having to ask at all? In such cases, remember he or she is not you, but a different person, with different standards and priories. What may be obvious or natural to you may be very hard or may not even occur to another person. You do have to ask to get what you want. Just do it right.
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