Perhaps you are invisible person who wants to be visible, to be recognized, to be someone in society, to move from nowhere to somewhere and you are frustrated because nothing seems to be happening.

You constantly wonder why things seem to be working for others and not for you? You feel like a victim of circumstances and you just want to scream and tell people “ Hey! Stop! Look at me, consider me, value my contribution …I am IT! I am real deal! What is really going on?

Outwardly everything may seem perfect but inwardly battle to stay intact rages on!

If you identify with any of these situations, then perhaps you need to take some time to find yourself.

How to find yourself.

To find yourself you need to ask yourself three questions.

1. Who are you?

Consider your values, what do you stand for; think about this question from truth that you know deep down inside. Do not be influenced by what you or others think that you should be. Give yourself honest feedback.

2. What do you want?

Consider your dreams, your desires, and your expectations. And write each one down. Ponder about each one carefully. Think about why “ what you want” is really important to you.

3. Where are you now and how will you get where you want to be?

Consider where you are right now, how you feel about where you are and think about how to get yourself out of that situation and into place where you want to be. You have to change your perspective and be creative to get an answer to this question.

Finally, get in touch with your true self and begin to lead a fulfilling life!

You know answer, it lies within you.

For instance, if you want to present a business proposal to a company…the negative thoughts you may have are; company will not be interested, my proposal will be rejected, I may not be able to deliver results I promise and etc. Write each thought down.

2. For each negative (why not) give a positive (why) response.

For all negative thoughts on your “negative list” prepare a positive response for each one by highlighting why you want to carry on with your idea or goal. For example: If one of your negative thoughts was “The company will not be interested in my proposal;” your positive response to that will be” The company will be very interested because my proposal is in line with company’s vision and work that I intend to do for company will improve profits greatly, create positive publicity and boost company’s image internationally.

Whatever your reasons are, write down why you support carrying on with your idea or goal. This will help you get rid of what’s holding you back mentally and allow you to start seeing possibility of what you can do.

3. Prove yourself right!

The only way to prove yourself, is to take an action step in direction you want to go. You can prove yourself right by either action or inaction. It’s almost like a battle between good and evil. If you choose to give in to your fears, you will be proving to yourself that you can’t really make it due to inaction paralysis. However, if despite all fears you face, you boldly and courageously choose to go forward with your plans to pursue your idea, goal or dream…chances are that, you will prove yourself a winner!

Whatever you do, get rid of inaction paralysis and make deliberate plans to place yourself on road to success.