Later we were joined by other friends. As "chance" would have it, one of new friends had connections with where our complaining friend worked. He gave our unhappy friend a name, and said he could help her resolve her issues. He went on to say that this connection was a supervisor, head of many departments, and could probably resolve whatever was wrong.

I was stunned. So was Nerissa. We were seeing magic happen right before our eyes.

But what did our unhappy friend do with her new lead and new hope?

She dismissed it.

She didn't write down name or numbr, or show any signs that something wonderful had just occured.

Do you see how this works?

Sometimes we can self-sabotage things we say we want. We simply dismiss good.

Let me end this with another example:

Yesterday I received a letter in mail about a new audioprogram about dissolving illusions. I read piece but dismissed it. I figured it was simply stuff I had already heard before and probably even recorded elsewhere myself.

Then today I got another mailing, this time from a different source, but selling exact same audiopogram. I read it over closely. I thought, "This is interesting, but I bet there's little new in it." I then placed mailing aside.

An hour or so later, as I was reviewing this very article you're reading right now, I suddenly realized that I was doing very thing I am warning you not to do: I was dismissing an opportunity to learn.

I dug out mailing, filled out order form, and dropped it in mail. The audios are on way.

The point is not that you buy everything that comes your way, but that you don't dismiss everything that comes your way. Sometimes a dismissal is a mask. It's your self-sabotage at work, keeping you where you're at. To grow, you must allow.

Again, you are final authority on your life. Tune in to yourself and do what's right for you. And as you do this, be alert to those times when you may be dismissing next gift to come your way.

Let your guard down, and let life in.

Dr. Joe Vitale is the author of way too many books to list here. His latest title is "The Attractor Factor:

5 Easy Steps for Creating Wealth (or anything else) From the Inside Out." Register for his monthly complimentary ezine at http://www.mrfire.com

His Executive Mentoring Program is described at http://www.joe-vitale-executive-mentoring.com/

I remember when I first heard about idea of giving. I thought it was a scheme to get me to give money to people who were telling me to do giving.

If I did give, it was like a miser. Naturally, what I got in return was equivalent to what I gave. I gave little. I got little.

But then one day I decided to test theory of giving.

I love inspiring stories. I read them, listen to them, share them, and tell them. I decided to thank Mike Dooley of tut.com for inspiring messages he shares with me and others every day by email.

I decided to give him some money. In past I would have given him maybe five dollars. But that's when I came from scarcity and feared giving principle wouldn't work. This time would be different. I took out my check book and wrote a check for one thousand dollars.

Mike was stunned. He got my check in mail and nearly drove off road as he headed home. He couldn't believe it.

I loved making him so happy. I delighted in giving money to him. Whatever he did with it was fine with me. What I got was an incredible feeling of helping someone continue doing what I believed in. It was an inner rush to help him. I still rejoice at sending him money.

And then something wonderful began to happen.

I suddenly got a call from a person who wanted me to co-author his book, a job that ended up paying me many times over what I given away.

And then a publisher in Japan contacted me, wanting to buy translation rights to my best-selling book, "Spiritual Marketing." They, too, offered me many times what I had given my friend as a gift.

A true skeptic can say these events are unrelated. Maybe in skeptic's mind, they aren't. In mine, they are.

When I gave money to Mike, I sent a message to myself and to world that I was prosperous and in flow. I also set up a magnetic principle that attracted money to me: As you give, so you will get.

Give time and you'll get time.

Give products and you'll get products.

Give love and you'll get love.

Give money and you'll get money.

This one tip alone can transform your finances. Think of person or persons who have inspired you over last week. Who made you feel good about yourself, your life, your dreams, or your goals?

Give that person some money. Give them something from your heart. Don't be stingy. Come from abundance, not scarcity. Give without expecting return from that person, but do expect return. As you do, you will see your own prosperity grow.

Try it and see.

Dr. Joe Vitale is the author of way too many books to list here. His latest title is "The Attractor Factor: 5 Easy Steps for Creating Wealth (or anything else) From the Inside Out." Register for his monthly complimentary ezine at http://www.mrfire.com

His Executive Mentoring Program is described at http://www.joe-vitale-executive-mentoring.com/