Hopefully you'll know where to turn when you've had enough of thinking in circles and getting nowhere. Start by reading product reviews, strategic development materials, and mapping out plan for your success.

What do you do next? You build your business. Those restless moments when you want desperately to call and beg him to come back are better used if applied to a productive aspect of building your enterprise.

Can't sleep? Then get to work on your marketing plan.

Why? Because you have to begin taking actions that empower and validate you ...the life you create for yourself. Focusing on your business is a way to begin working and focusing on your future, independent of self defeating relationships.

This approach to your recovery has many long term benefits. Chief among them, it helps you become oriented with concepts of relationship valuation that will enhance all of your future relationships, professional and personal.

With diligent conscious attention this can be an exercise in breaking old relationship patterns by creating a better relationship with yourself. Building your business is an investment in your future at most fundamental level. Attention to your material well being is a basic expression of self love when you intend it to be so.

This is why entrepreneurship works as an effective intervention. The pay off is obvious. Your business success is key to affording financial freedom and lifestyle you envision. Stop postponing your good until someone else shows up. You're already here and I know just where you can get started.

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My Two Cents ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Two weeks ago, Iowa state Senate passed a bill that would cut waiting period for a marriage license from 20 days to 3 days for couples who go to pre- marital counseling. The bill is right in step with a current trend-state initiatives to reduce divorce through pre-marital education and counseling.

Florida and Minnesota have reduced marriage license fees for those who take a pre-marital education course. Arizona created a "marriage handbook," and funds marriage-skills courses for low-income couples. Forty states now fund some kind of marriage-related services.

As a provider of pre-marital counseling, you might expect that I'd be in favor of these measures. After all, recent research evidence shows that pre-marital counseling can strengthen a relationship by 30%. And no doubt many of these programs will do a lot of good. Couples who wouldn't otherwise think about counseling or who couldn't afford it will get some much-needed skills. And they very well could save their marriage.

In spite of these possible benefits, I believe government should stay out of pre-marital counseling business. Offering incentives is a slippery slope. The next step could be establishing requirements. And guess what? The government makes mistakes when it makes lifestyle recommendations. It could easily throw its weight behind programs that are a waste of money. Or have unforeseen consequences.

I applaud renewed value we are giving to marriage and increased concern about preventing divorces. And I applaud growing trend of couples choosing to go to counseling. But I vote that pre-marital counseling remain just that-a completely free choice.

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