In as much as we would like to help our 'almost adults' make adulthood choices, amidst their period of regression (wherein they behave more like a 12 year old), power to control their destiny is not ours.

There comes a time wherein only option left is to let go, to extent their behavior is neither illegal or immoral, and let God finish raising them. And in making transition from parent to friend, we discover our own need for growth; thereby realizing God is not finished raising us, either.

Once we acknowledge that our need to control is a result of fear, consider that fear does not come from God, remember that we were once 'almost adults', too, and realize that God used our immaturity to grow us into a better person ... perhaps, then, we can trust God to protect our 'almost adults' from irreversible harm and know He will be there to pick up pieces for them, too.

© 2004 by Joyce C. Lock http://our.homewithgod.com/heavenlyinspirations/

Note that power to select attorney normally resides with your executor.

To help reduce cost of probate, it is possible to study extensive volume of educational materials found in public law libraries regarding probate system in order to do much of work yourself or require executor to attempt this. Your executor can complete and file most of forms completed by attorney’s secretary. The best idea, however, is to avoid probate altogether. Look at Revocable Living Trust - http://www.legalhelpmate.com/living-trust-online.aspx

Jeffrey Broobin is a free-lance writer on family and finance issues; his main goal is to help people during their complicated period of life, to find a right legal solution in regards to family relationship.