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2 Be other person
Revisit conversation again only this time cycle through it as if you were other person. Imagine what it was like to be there looking at you and listening to you. You are now walking in their shoes so as to get a close up look at what it is like to deal with you.
You may find that you spot reasons why conversation did not go as well as you would have liked.
3 Ask yourself - how did I get result I achieved?
In this stage of process you put responsibility on your shoulders alone for outcome of conversation. Blaming others will not help you to think creatively for solutions and ways to better your conversational skills.
Revisit that conversation one more time as neutral observer and one time as other person. In each case look for answer to question: how did I get this result? Then ask yourself: what could I do differently to get what I really want?
You will discover ways to change your approach that can dramatically improve how you communicate when it matters most.
By using this approach I often spot opportunities to use more emphasis on key points and value of being enthusiastic when I want someone to consider my opinion. At other times I notice that I could listen more carefully instead of just getting carried away with my own agenda.
Play with this way of developing perspective for yourself and have fun spotting all little differences that add up to a big difference in your ability to speak with impact.
Peter Murphy is a freelance business writer. He recently produced a 5 day ecourse on Persuasion Mastery. To get this for free send mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org