With each subsequent utterance, these automatic messages have built that dividing wall, one brick at a time. One "I can't do this!" = 1 brick in wall.

Right now, I want you to identify your present message. Delete it and get ready to program another! You need an affirmative message - one that will inspire not inhibit, encourage not discourage, and motivate you to overcome rather than to be overcome.

The choice for message is up to you. One of simplest ones, but most effective is, "I CAN DO THIS." A few other suggestions are, "I'm better than this", "I'm bigger than this", and "I'm up for it." I knew a really colorful guy once who always said, "Not a problem." Whenever crazy things went on around him, he'd respond with his catch phrase. He was a lot of fun to be around, and come to think of it - he didn't seem to have many problems!

So what's holding you back? You are! More specifically, your thoughts are. They're responsible for building wall between you and your dreams. As soon as you ditch them and replace them with affirmations, wall will come crashing down and nothing will be in your way!

2. Substitute temptations. Quickly get a glass of your favorite juice or soda if you don't want that beer.

3. Ask for help. If you can't stop complaining, for example, have friends point out when you are doing it.

4. Relax. Willpower is low when you are stressed. Close your eyes and take three deep breaths.

5. Energize yourself. Willpower tends to go up and down with energy levels. Sleep well, play energetic music, move around, or start an interesting conversation.

6. Find cause of temptation, and deal with it. A boring job or life can lead you to all sorts of stupid ways to find "excitement." Consider changing what you can change.

You can call it willpower, or self control, or something else. You just want to stop yourself from doing harmful things, right? Using techniques and tips here will help.