Now, I really don't mean to put anyone down here. Everybody struggles and everybody does their best with what they have.

The problem with these relatives is NOT single wide house, $7.50 an hour job, or 4 old cars. The problem is they are content with what they have and are not pushing to improve. The problem is they've decided that what they have today is 'good enough' for rest of their lives.

So, they hate me because I live in a better house, drive a better car, and don't have to work for someone else. The only difference, though, is that I expect more from life. The same old routine is NOT good enough for me. I'm trying for better and I will get it.

'Good enough' is a state of mind that can destroy dreams faster than anything. You've got to keep progressing. Set your standard of 'good enough' as high as you most possibly can. Then work to achieve it.

That's often only difference between success and failure.

I know I'm not going to settle for anything less than what I've always dreamed of. That is ONLY thing that will be 'good enough' for me and my family.

So now, you tell me, what's 'good enough' for you?

With some individual coaching for each team member, each began to monitor involvement in meetings. For those for whom it was difficult, they undertook to at least say when they agreed or disagreed. For those for whom it was easy, they undertook to leave some airtime free. Often, it is a challenge to find a quiet moment to summon up gumption to speak!

When you have something you feel is important to contribute to a meeting, formulate your thoughts, take a deep breath and jump in. Nothing life-threatening will happen. It's a little like learning to swim. The first few times you may get a mouthful of water and sputter a little. You may find yourself gasping for air. You may flail around a little, but, with practice, things even out and you make progress. Yes, it may feel awkward. Yes, you may discount importance of what you have to say before you say it. But, jump in. You are there to offer your skills and learning. It is your responsibility.

A tip or two about handling those who only value sound of their own voices may be in order. They have to take a breath sometime. Be ready to step in and take that opportunity.

AGREE WITH THEM. Beginning with 'I agree with _____________ part of your opinion..." and go on to offer your thoughts. Being agreed with, even in part, will encourage them to listen to you.

USE POSITIVE LANGUAGE. Tell folks what you think would be best and why rather than telling them what is wrong with their ideas. Again, you may capture their attention.

HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOUR IDEAS. Work within yourself to clarify your thoughts prior to meeting. You may even make some notes. Being prepared will make it more likely that you will have some energy behind your points of view and, therefore, be more likely to express them.

BE BRIEF AND SPECIFIC. This is a great tip for everyone at meeting. Stay on topic and point. Give your thoughts and reasons in short sentences, then stop and let others respond. This is way business gets done! Who wants interminable meetings?

Speak up! You have right and responsibility to do so.