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It goes like this.
My thoughts: I always eat too potato chips, and I canít lose weight. Iím so spineless.
Are my thoughts true? I donít always eat too many potato chips. Iíve been eating dessert, which is probably why I canít lose weight. Itís not potato chips. I donít know why I said Iím spineless. Iím not.
Why do I eat so many potato chips? When I ate them today, it was after that conversation with my friend. I felt angry. The crunch of potato chips helped me feel less angry. Now that I think about it, I eat potato chips a lot when Iím angry.
Do I want to continue believing my thoughts? No. I forgive myself for eating potato chips to swallow my anger. I forgive myself for calling myself spineless.
New thoughts: When Iím angry next time, Iím going to express my anger appropriately and talk with other person. Iím not going to eat potato chips. I can lose weight. I am successful in losing weight.
Learn to listen to yourself and not rely on outside cues for what you may or may not think and feel. Itís not selfish to meet your real needs directly. When you meet your true needs, food is no longer a bandage. Then you can freely choose whether or not to eat that particular food without intensity of unmet emotional needs. Itís about valuing yourself and making decisions and choices that honor your value. New thinking will support your weight loss efforts.
Zo Houseman is the author of Live Lightly! that describes how she lost 100 pounds and kept it off by learning to think differently. Read free excerpts. More information and resources are available at http://www.setyourheartfree.com.