She said she’d honestly never thought of it like that. She’d only seen it from point of view that her and kids never got to see him and felt neglected. She told him this and they ended up talking until small hours of morning, getting everything off their chests.

Now four principles that she employed in this situation were:

1-When you turn on light, darkness cannot survive. She responded with love when presented with animosity, and love won.

2-Someone gives you a gift of an emotion (hate, fear, animosity). You have choice of accepting or rejecting emotion. If you choose to reject it, then it remains theirs and doesn’t transfer to you. She chose not to get upset by his remark, but to take control of situation and point it in direction she wanted to go.

3-Why would you ever willingly accept someone else’s negative energy as your own? Never allow anyone to contaminate your energy field with their negative energy. Imagine that you have a field of positive around you and that nothing you don’t want, can get through.

4-Choose to keep yourself plugged into God and Love instead of material world and fear. Repeat phrase “I can choose Peace instead of this turmoil” Decide to switch from being a victim of negativity to a master of positivity.

If you keep yourself focused on God then you automatically know Peace. If you concentrate on giving Love, you will have it returned many times and in a multitude of ways.

The greatest gift you can give to your children is to love their Mother/Father.

Stop and see what it is you are to learn from situation. The difference between a man who loses his job and becomes a couch potato, and a man who goes out and starts his own business with redundancy money, is their responsibility for their attitude to life.

When you consciously take control of what you are thinking, feeling and experiencing, you have key to empowerment.

Instead of looking at a days work as drudgery, look at it as a means to getting one step closer to your goals.

See doing ironing as a blessing rather than a curse. How you may ask? Well, give thanks that you have a roof over your head, clothes to protect you from cold and are healthy enough to go about you business wearing your ironed clothes (find blessings in your particular circumstances). Suddenly act of ironing becomes a 'giving thanks' exercise rather than a dreaded chore.

Find a place where you can stand and look up at sky. Notice what clouds look like, how fast they're moving, what an array of colors there are, listen for birds and feel wind on your face. Marvel at mechanics of world that go on around you every day - and stop to notice them.

In short. Stop - take notice - and take responsibility for path of YOUR Life!