So, how do we know what other person is truly feeling? You have several options for getting this information.

* You take them at their word and wait to see if they follow through with what they have said they would do. Nothing speaks louder than behavior. This option is most common choice and can leave you in that all too familiar holding and wondering pattern.

* You attempt to address situation openly and candidly. This one requires a bit of courage and an ability to be vulnerable. State how you are feeling in a thoughtful but honest way. Ask them to do same for you. Let them know that you want to hear their honest thoughts about how date went and if they would like to get together again.

* The third option should be used regardless of what you do with other two. Pay attention to their non-verbal communication. How do they look at you? What quiet responses do you get after you have shared something about yourself? What do you see in their facial reaction, posture and eyes? Do you FEEL interest or just politeness? Are they really WITH you, or somewhere else? If you learn to listen to non-verbal language, you will HEAR much more than what their words have to say.

Listening to whole person applies throughout stages of dating and relationships. It is also important during this time to pay attention to their behavior and note inconsistencies or mixed messages. Too often people don't and are stunned when a relationship "suddenly" ends or they find out they are seeing someone who was not person they thought they were. Trust your instincts and listen "with a third ear".

Remember also that responsibility for honesty is also on you. Don't say what you think other person wants to hear because you don't want to be impolite or hurt their feelings. If you really think about it, it is more hurtful and in poor taste to be dishonest with someone who has a true interest and is trying to learn yours.

CHEMISTS 'Farmacias' as they are called in Spain - abound and can be identified by a prominent (and usually flashing) green cross sign. Most of medications available in UK can be purchased in Spain - with many available without prescription. Prices are low and most items cost considerably less than prescription charges levied in UK (is there a lesson to be learned here?). Chemists in Spain are trained to diagnose and treat many common illnesses and ailments - thus leaving doctors free to treat more urgent cases (another lesson!). Most staff speak English to some degree and there is always one Chemist open 24 hours in every large town.

What happens about my U.K. Pension? British State Pensions can be paid direct to your bank account in Spain - usually monthly. The Benefits Agency can provide necessary forms and further advice. If you have a private pension you will need to speak to pension provider as regulations vary.

Do British Banks have branches in Spain? Some of UK high street banks do have branches in main towns and cities, especially Barclays and HSBC. Smaller towns have only Spanish domestic banks. Most UK banks have tie ups with these and should be able to point you in right direction.

Are all main religions practised in Spain? Most of major religions and churches can be found in Spain with a little effort, although vast majority of Spaniards are Roman Catholic.

How does Spains transport compare to UK? Very well indeed. The Spanish government have invested vast sums of money in both road network and public transport infrastructure. Buses and trains generally run on time and are an economic and convenient method of getting about.

Do we need medical vaccinations to live in Spain? No.

Are public holidays same as UK? Some holidays occur at similar times - Easter and Christmas, along with other public national, local and regional holidays.

What are shop opening hours? Shops are generally open between 10am and 2pm and again between 5pm and 8pm - Monday to Friday. Supermarkets tend to keep longer hours. On Saturdays most of smaller shops are closed in afternoon. Larger shops and department stores are open from 9am though till 9pm or 10pm Monday to Saturday. Sunday will probably see most shops closed, although some supermarkets may choose to offer a limited opening.

Can I still vote in an UK election whilst living in Spain? Yes. Even if you become a Spanish resident you are still classed as a UK national and therefore are eligible to vote by post.

Should I make a Spanish will? This is advisable. If you, or a relative, should die whilst resident in Spain, Spanish law is responsible for your estate. A solicitor will be able to take you through process without difficulty and we can recommend a reputable one for you.