Top Questions Series - How to deepen your sexual experience?

Written by Elisha Goldstein

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As you practice Mindful Sex you will give yourselfrepparttar chance to discover what it is that you really like and you will begin to feel more comfortable communicating that to whomever you are having sex with, even if that person is yourself (i.e., masturbation). Here isrepparttar 141886 gist:

As you begin to practice mindful sex, it is important to remember one thing: Whatever it is that you are doing, do it slightly slower than usual. This does not mean go in slow motion, it means just go slightly slower than you would think to go. As you move slightly slower, you give yourselfrepparttar 141887 opportunity to really be there in that moment and notice things that you may not have noticed. If you are giving a massage, you get to feel howrepparttar 141888 personís skin actually feels, is there a scent torepparttar 141889 oil? If so, inhale it. Ifrepparttar 141890 oil is edible, take an extra moment to lick it and truly taste it in your mouth. Look over your partner and take a moment to take in allrepparttar 141891 little nuances ofrepparttar 141892 personís body. By slightly slowing down, you also allow yourself to relax a bit, and this not only helps in making this a richer experience, but also helps reduce anxiety if that is an issue (e.g., being overly sensitive or premature ejaculation).

You can apply this in every moment of sex that you find yourself in. For example, when you are giving oral sex, go slightly slower and noticerepparttar 141893 smell and taste involved, feelrepparttar 141894 texture ofrepparttar 141895 other person, is it soft/rough? What doesrepparttar 141896 personís vagina or penis look like? As you go slightly slower youíll find that it is not so difficult to notice these things and it will draw you deeper intorepparttar 141897 experience and give yourepparttar 141898 gift that you have not been privy to experience inrepparttar 141899 past.

Ofcourse, you can apply this to intercourse as well. No matter your gender or sexual orientation, there is often some sort of sexual intercourse involved. It is important to let your partner know that you want to go slightly slower this time in whatever way you feel comfortable communicating that. Asrepparttar 141900 intercourse begins, noticerepparttar 141901 sensations you are feeling. All parts of you are experiencing sensations from your head to your penis or vagina to your feet. If you find yourself thinking about something, notice that you are thinking about something and gently bring yourself back to your sensations. If you find yourself judging your self orrepparttar 141902 other person, just notice that you are judging and gently bring yourself back to your sensations.


Paying attention to your sensations may also broaden your horizons on things you want to do. Maybe you notice that while having intercourse that you are not tasting anything so you decide to taste your partner by kissing or licking him/her. Maybe you want to smell your partner more to bring in that sensation. Maybe you open your ears and begin to hear whatrepparttar 141903 sex you are having sounds like. Maybe youíre now noticing forrepparttar 141904 first time what other areas of your body are being touched during intercourse besides your penis, vagina, or nipples. You might just discover an erotic area of your body that you had not noticed before (e.g., back ofrepparttar 141905 knees, toes).

Having mindful sex is simply a teaching and a suggestion. If a spontaneous act of aggressive sex comes out and it is not a slightly slowed down process, than that is Ok too. This is simply an opportunity to broaden your awareness about yourself duringrepparttar 141906 act of sex and deepeningrepparttar 141907 richness of your experience. Of all things we have to experiment with on this planet, this is surely one ofrepparttar 141908 top. So, responsibly, go off and try this out, have fun, and broaden your horizons! You may just find that sex is a far more sensual and sacred experience than you had previously imagined.

Elisha Goldstein is a 4th year doctoral student at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology in Palo Alto. He is currently exploring how the cultivation of sacred moments in daily life affects well-being and stress. If you would consider participating in this invaluable study, please go to You can also check out

Fat Dogs - How To Get Overweight Dogs to Diet and Slim Down Without Whining

Written by LittleDog

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A balanced dog food is at least a quarter protein and 1600 kilocalories of energy per pound, but ifrepparttar dog is not active, overweight dogs will need less food. For canned dog food,repparttar 141875 calorie intake is measured at 500 calories per pound, although ifrepparttar 141876 dog food is all meat, itís 600 calories a pound. For dry food, 1500 calories per pound, and semi-soft or moist food is 1350 per pound. So if a dog weighs less than 11 pounds, feed them about 4 ounces of dry food a day. Up to 22 pounds, feed 5 ounces, 22-50 pounds gets 11 ounces, 55-75 pounds gets 17 ounces, and 75 pounds or more get 35-30 ounces of dry food.

All these calculations donít necessarily work, though, as each dog metabolizes food differently and has different activity levels. Remember, a dog doesnít have to eat every day, and can go up to five days without eating. Also, spaying or neuteringrepparttar 141877 dog does not cause obesity.

If your dog only nibbles atrepparttar 141878 food, donít be fooled. Nibblers tend to eat more inrepparttar 141879 long run than gobblers, and thus gain weight quicker. And ifrepparttar 141880 obese dog is picky,repparttar 141881 dog will eventually become accustomed torepparttar 141882 healthy food, it may just take a while.

Once your dog is on a diet, keep track ofrepparttar 141883 dogís weight. Ifrepparttar 141884 obese dog has lost even a little weight over two weeks, youíre onrepparttar 141885 right track.

Walks should be given regularly (a couple times a day), but donít overdo it at first ifrepparttar 141886 dog is really fat. Moderation in everything isrepparttar 141887 key to seriously overweight dogs. The goal should be doublerepparttar 141888 amount ofrepparttar 141889 walks your dog is getting now. Once your dog is trim, though, itís good to walk your dog a lot Ė most dogs donít get enough exercise.

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