Top Questions Series - How to deepen your sexual experience?Written by Elisha Goldstein
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As you practice Mindful Sex you will give yourself chance to discover what it is that you really like and you will begin to feel more comfortable communicating that to whomever you are having sex with, even if that person is yourself (i.e., masturbation). Here is gist:
As you begin to practice mindful sex, it is important to remember one thing: Whatever it is that you are doing, do it slightly slower than usual. This does not mean go in slow motion, it means just go slightly slower than you would think to go. As you move slightly slower, you give yourself opportunity to really be there in that moment and notice things that you may not have noticed. If you are giving a massage, you get to feel how personís skin actually feels, is there a scent to oil? If so, inhale it. If oil is edible, take an extra moment to lick it and truly taste it in your mouth. Look over your partner and take a moment to take in all little nuances of personís body. By slightly slowing down, you also allow yourself to relax a bit, and this not only helps in making this a richer experience, but also helps reduce anxiety if that is an issue (e.g., being overly sensitive or premature ejaculation).
You can apply this in every moment of sex that you find yourself in. For example, when you are giving oral sex, go slightly slower and notice smell and taste involved, feel texture of other person, is it soft/rough? What does personís vagina or penis look like? As you go slightly slower youíll find that it is not so difficult to notice these things and it will draw you deeper into experience and give you gift that you have not been privy to experience in past.
Ofcourse, you can apply this to intercourse as well. No matter your gender or sexual orientation, there is often some sort of sexual intercourse involved. It is important to let your partner know that you want to go slightly slower this time in whatever way you feel comfortable communicating that. As intercourse begins, notice sensations you are feeling. All parts of you are experiencing sensations from your head to your penis or vagina to your feet. If you find yourself thinking about something, notice that you are thinking about something and gently bring yourself back to your sensations. If you find yourself judging your self or other person, just notice that you are judging and gently bring yourself back to your sensations.
Paying attention to your sensations may also broaden your horizons on things you want to do. Maybe you notice that while having intercourse that you are not tasting anything so you decide to taste your partner by kissing or licking him/her. Maybe you want to smell your partner more to bring in that sensation. Maybe you open your ears and begin to hear what sex you are having sounds like. Maybe youíre now noticing for first time what other areas of your body are being touched during intercourse besides your penis, vagina, or nipples. You might just discover an erotic area of your body that you had not noticed before (e.g., back of knees, toes).
Having mindful sex is simply a teaching and a suggestion. If a spontaneous act of aggressive sex comes out and it is not a slightly slowed down process, than that is Ok too. This is simply an opportunity to broaden your awareness about yourself during act of sex and deepening richness of your experience. Of all things we have to experiment with on this planet, this is surely one of top. So, responsibly, go off and try this out, have fun, and broaden your horizons! You may just find that sex is a far more sensual and sacred experience than you had previously imagined.
Elisha Goldstein is a 4th year doctoral student at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology in Palo Alto. He is currently exploring how the cultivation of sacred moments in daily life affects well-being and stress. If you would consider participating in this invaluable study, please go to http://sacredmomentstudy.blogspot.com You can also check out http://mindfulmoments.blogspot.com
Fat Dogs - How To Get Overweight Dogs to Diet and Slim Down Without WhiningWritten by LittleDog
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A balanced dog food is at least a quarter protein and 1600 kilocalories of energy per pound, but if dog is not active, overweight dogs will need less food. For canned dog food, calorie intake is measured at 500 calories per pound, although if dog food is all meat, itís 600 calories a pound. For dry food, 1500 calories per pound, and semi-soft or moist food is 1350 per pound. So if a dog weighs less than 11 pounds, feed them about 4 ounces of dry food a day. Up to 22 pounds, feed 5 ounces, 22-50 pounds gets 11 ounces, 55-75 pounds gets 17 ounces, and 75 pounds or more get 35-30 ounces of dry food.
All these calculations donít necessarily work, though, as each dog metabolizes food differently and has different activity levels. Remember, a dog doesnít have to eat every day, and can go up to five days without eating. Also, spaying or neutering dog does not cause obesity.
If your dog only nibbles at food, donít be fooled. Nibblers tend to eat more in long run than gobblers, and thus gain weight quicker. And if obese dog is picky, dog will eventually become accustomed to healthy food, it may just take a while.
Once your dog is on a diet, keep track of dogís weight. If obese dog has lost even a little weight over two weeks, youíre on right track.
Walks should be given regularly (a couple times a day), but donít overdo it at first if dog is really fat. Moderation in everything is key to seriously overweight dogs. The goal should be double amount of walks your dog is getting now. Once your dog is trim, though, itís good to walk your dog a lot Ė most dogs donít get enough exercise.
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