Number 3: Don't Self-Judge If you see anything happening in audience or from your performance, don't judge for yourself. Remember from Number 1, you are out to give audience show of their life - don't spoil it especially when you don't know what it is! Don't Self-Judge! Doing this will take your out of moment and destroys flow of your music. How about just observing without describing in your head? See immense difference it does to you!

Number 4: Be On Stage! I don't mean just appear on stage and perform; I mean really be on stage! Use your power of your mind and see yourself on stage, not in audience. Remember, you are giving to audience, not receiving. Get into that mode. You have chance to show your beloved talent to so many people - make most of opportunity! Remember, you are in music and in moment. Don't let any of above stop that. You cannot be performer and listener at same time. Let audience develop their thoughts for themselves.

Number 5: Enjoy! Each performance you have is valuable as it will further promotion of your music or your instrument around world. So many people will hear about wonders you have created so remember, performance anxiety is easy to be rid of. I've done it, and so have thousands more musicians. Now we all enjoy performing anywhere we go. Do same, and enjoy your performance. Let adrenaline and your genuine lively passion for music come through.

I suggest you look through and work through these top 5 ways of demolishing performance anxiety before each performance so you get maximum benefit.

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2. Take stock of how you have behaved in previous relationships. Since by definition you are single, your past relationships have not worked out for whatever reason. And like it or not, that makes you at least 50% responsible for them not working out.

Get clarity on what you contributed to those relationships not working out. Be kind to yourself as you do this. Do not make it an excuse to beat your self up all over again.

3. Review your beliefs about relationships. What do you think should happen at different stages – from courtship to living together? What are your entrenched beliefs about opposite sex? For example, from your cultural heritage, what are expected roles and duties of a partner?

4. Get clear about what you want in a relationship. Make fulfilment of your short term and long term needs criteria for choosing a partner. 5. Define and get clear about your ideal relationship and partner. Be realistic, and ask what your needs are rather than your wants. What must your relationship have? What are absolute essentials for you to thrive? 6. Socialise and have fun so as to create a varied, rich life and to be part of a healthy supportive community, and to enhance your life. You will therefore focus not so much on meeting your partner and more on creating a rich vibrant life, one which will be so attractive to a potentially dream catch. Most people usually socialise in various ways so as to meet their dream partner, and by simply having fun and enjoying your life you become so much more attractive.

Make your life work and make room for your ideal partner. Once you have your life working for you, and you are happy, you will indeed attract right partner.

Remember, you deserve best. And that includes a dream relationship and ideal partner. Don’t accept second best. Get clear about what you want in your life partner and why – and you can have it.

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