Top 5 Sources Of Energy Drains

Written by Helaine Iris


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Energy Drain #3: Tolerating Friction In Your Environment and Relationships The squeaky door. The leaky faucet. The tired paint color on your bedroom walls. By themselves,repparttar energy drain is minor. Add them all up, however, and you have a gaping hole in your energy system. It's time to clean it all up. Make a list of allrepparttar 101436 things in your home, office or car that you continually notice needing attention. Set aside some time and tick them off your list once and for all. Likewise, when you tolerate a dysfunctional relationship or have unfinished business with anyone, you're losing energy. Confrontrepparttar 101437 relationship issues you have. Clean up unfinished business. If necessary, get support from someone who can help you negotiate such confrontations skillfully and responsibly. Think ofrepparttar 101438 energy it takes to avoid someone versusrepparttar 101439 energy you'd gain inrepparttar 101440 long run havingrepparttar 101441 issue cleared up. Energy Drain #4: Disorganization According to a USA Today report, Americans waste 9 million hours every day looking for misplaced items. Every time you can't find your keys, you waste energy. Each time you have to shuffle through a stack of papers to find an important document you waste energy. Each time you feel like you'd be embarrassed to have a friend drop by, you are depleting your energy account. The solution is simple. Get organized. Although it may seem a daunting task, what you'll gain in energy and satisfaction is well worthrepparttar 101442 initial investment. Julie Morgenstern,repparttar 101443 organizational goddess, recommends handling it in small chunks. Start with one room at a time. You've got to start somewhere. It's well worthrepparttar 101444 effort forrepparttar 101445 feeling of peace and tranquility that an organized space offers. Energy Drain #5: Taking Care Of Yourself Last It's been drilled into us. Meet everyone's needs before your own. While taking care of our loved ones provides a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment, it also requires precious energy. In worse cases, it can even breed resentment - another huge source of energy drain. A famous person once said, "Only give from an overflowing cup." Try this on. What if your criteria for giving were based on how full your own cup was? In other words, you can only afford to give when you have an ample supply yourself. What does it take to ensure a full cup? A good place to start is to followrepparttar 101446 suggestions fromrepparttar 101447 above four examples. You'll begin accumulating a reserve of energy until you have plenty for yourself, as well as enough to give to others. It's YOUR life . . . live it completely!



Helaine Iris is a certified Life Coach, writer and teacher who loves her life. She works with individuals, and self-employed professionals, who want to thrive in their business while crafting a life that's in absolute alignment with their highest ideals, deepest values and gracefully masters the complexities of modern living. For a solution focused, free initial consultation visit her website http://www.pathofpurpose.com or call her 603-357-8546 or email her helaine@pathofpurpose.com


GET NO RESPECT? TRY THIS UNUSUAL APPROACH

Written by Pauline Wallin, Ph.D.


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When you first tryrepparttar gift/favor approach, it won't feel right at all. The immature recesses of your mind (what I callrepparttar 101435 "inner brat") will NOT want to do it. It may even scold you for kissing up to someone who treated you with disrespect.

But your inner brat doesn't realize that you are not kissing up. You are taking charge, choosing to rise aboverepparttar 101436 other person's hostility. This isrepparttar 101437 mark of a mature person, somethingrepparttar 101438 inner brat can't understand.

Here are some tips to makerepparttar 101439 gift/favor strategy even more powerful:

1. You don't have to act right away -- in fact sometimes it's more effective when you wait a while.

2. The gift orrepparttar 101440 favor must be very small. If it's too lavish,repparttar 101441 other person might consider it a bribe or a manipulation. Inrepparttar 101442 earlier example ofrepparttar 101443 ex-wife, supposerepparttar 101444 man had brought her some expensive perfume. In that case she could have easily assumed that he was just trying to control her.

3. Any favors that you do for this purpose must appear casual and incidental. Note thatrepparttar 101445 man withrepparttar 101446 cherries told his ex that he noticed them while he was shopping atrepparttar 101447 farmer's market. He gave them to her atrepparttar 101448 same time that he was picking up his kids. He didn't make any special trips. When you present token gifts in such a casual manner,repparttar 101449 recipient is less likely to feel manipulated.

4. Use this approach sparingly. If you do it too often, you may be viewed as patronizing or "kissing up." It's better to save it for infrequent little surprises.

As I mentioned earlier, this approach does not work 100% ofrepparttar 101450 time. But even when it doesn't, you can still reap a benefit. Because you choose to respond with kindness and consideration, you will remain calmer and feel more in control overrepparttar 101451 situation. And, as an added bonus, you may find that you are not so annoyed byrepparttar 101452 other person after all!

Pauline Wallin, Ph.D. is a psychologist and coach in Camp Hill, PA, and author of "Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-defeating Behavior" (Wildcat Canyon Press, 2004)

Visit http://www.innerbrat.com for more information, and subscribe to her free, monthly Inner Brat Newsletter.


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