Now, to crux: What is difference between being in love and not being in love? It is butterflies! When a relationship is still young, and both parties are starry-eyed about each other, they believe they are in love. They feel butterflies. But true love must be tested, time and again.

Love that tests true to diverse storms and passes true love tests may not feel butterflies and starry-eyed-ness of young hot couple next door, who can’t take their eyes or hands off each other. When a relationship which goes through stormy times (this is a must for every relationship) and still endures, it means that butterflies still persist. The other person still gives you a reason to hold on; still has that something; fire, smile, look in their eyes, personality, charm to make you still hold on, despite all ups and downs. At this level, you know that you love that person truly.

But what about others that are really sweet and loveable people? Sure, they exist; we definitely do know them. These are people we do love, but not with same intensity. Yes, we will miss them in our lives, if it comes down to it; yes, we will miss them like we will miss an old friend or colleague or a really dear one. This is love we have for our family members but may not quite make grade, when it comes to a life partner. The love you have for someone you want to make your life partner needs to be stronger than filial love, because you want to hang in there, for better or worse, till death do us part.

Understanding these core differences, immediately opens our eye of understanding to know exactly what emotions we feel and where we stand with various loved ones in our lives.

************************************************************************ Knowledge is NOT power; it is only empowering….The Application of Knowledge IS power. ************************************************************************

Christopher Adeyemi Adetosoye is author of A Man’s Guide to Finding True Love and A Woman’s Guide to Finding True Love, E-books, which are currently available at http://www.trueloveguide.com

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