And if other woman is not as beautiful as you? Do not worry! He will find something else with which she can compete and win you - perhaps she is good at jokes? Perhaps she is Spanish?( Think Penelope Cruz!); Perhaps she looks like his mother? (think Camila Parker!); perhaps she is a cartoonist he met again in Paris (think Sally-Ann Lasson!); And who knows, perhaps she was married to his best friend; she even could be your best friend , which should translate automatically to a better you - you know. Yet, you could be one of those very lucky few. He would leave a model for you, give you a cocaine addiction then hang himself in a hotel room (think Michael Hutchinson!).

What are men good for? Tough question. They could open doors, carry heavy shopping bags, pay bills, give you a fake orgasm when you are dying to feel like a porn star, give you a name to use for rest of your life, grant you a divorce settlement, bestow a title, and call you mother of their children out of respect to show eternal gratitude. And if most of above do not apply? They can paint walls, drain pipes, mow grass and arrange a troubadore life for you and children in anything ranging from a caravan to single-mothers homes. They can even leave a wedding picture to testify you were desired by at least one testosterone-infected creature so you would never be accused of being an old maid. Not even that? So we are talking gigolos; but then you must be filthy rich, horribly ugly and obviously old. If you are all that, you are a born winner. You can afford best human vibrators and pay nothing but cash for excellent services.

Did I say I was writing this to all men I loved before who were shown my back door? I said it when I only meant them to know what I say behind their back to all women they have in store.Sing please!

An Egyptian-born writer and poet who is mainly published in English.

Making choice to either fight back or to run away can feel risky to you. You may feel afraid to try either one. However, consequences of doing nothing are serious indeed. Fear will exist in extreme situations and can limit your capabilities unless you incorporate it into a mind-set that allows you to exceed its paralyzing force. Do not let fear or panic control you. Instead, let your fear and adrenaline motivate action.

The best timing you can have is when opponent doesn't see it coming. Surprise attacks instill fear and confusion. If your assailant takes you by surprise, remain as calm as possible and take a quick assessment of facts. This may require that you be thinking one thing and physically performing another.

Mistakes are inevitable because combat is continuous and ongoing. Fighting is not static or choreographed. Surviving an encounter often requires adaptability. So, prepare your mind and body to act, using whatever it takes, for however long it takes, to remain alive. If something isn't working, move on. Ride out any unsuccessful maneuvers without seizing up or panicking.

You cannot always control your surroundings or what is happening to you, so you must control your actions. Guide yourself through crisis by going with current as opposed to fighting it, until you can reach shore. Sometimes, you can expect this process to be painful. Tell yourself ahead of time that, no matter how badly it might hurt, that you will never, never give up. This endurance mindset can save your life. To survive is not a matter of conquering, but of enduring. It is to outlast a given situation. In a word, persevere!

Serious conflict has a way of releasing in you a heightened sense of awareness. Yet it is possible that your energy may become misdirected and lead to a failed performance. By keeping energy in reserve (what I call 90% Rule), you can maintain this heightened state and remain alert so that opportunities are not overlooked. If you strike a pad with 100% of your energy, then hit it again using only 90%, it would be very hard to tell difference. In fact, a 90% energy strike is often more relaxed, powerful, and quick. Marshal your resources or no matter how skilled, you'll be defeated due to lack. Conflict, like many things in this world, contains a unique rhythm. Experts that find rhythm can pace themselves without haste and miscalculation.

Life itself is simplified in dangerous circumstances making less, enough. Anyone who has experienced and survived a life-threatening event can tell you what is really important in this world. If you can envision for a moment, what it must be like to be close to edge of life and death, it is easy to see how ones priorities can change. The survivor is keenly aware of possibility of a traumatic attack and need to take precautions. In end, every effort you make to discipline your physical and emotional reflexes will help to hone your intuition and keep you whole.

You can find out more about Robert Bussey and these concepts online at http://www.busseystyle.com