A victim position differs from a victim situation by re-creating a victim situation in mind. All thoughts and feelings connected with it then influence perspective on life.

A victim situation happens in life. Out of such a situation victim position emerges with all associated feelings of powerless rage and guilt feelings which then gets repeated in life.

How can you move beyond suffering?

An important step to move beyond suffering is to understand your motives. Is suffering consolidation of an old pain, a victim position, part of identity or possibility to get attention?

Another important step is to expand your consciousness. Consciousness heals. Consciousness is a tool that allows you to see through illusions and confusions that make you prone for suffering.

What would be important to understand to move beyond suffering?

* The four pillars of how to grow joy in your life * The difference it makes when you say YES: YES to life, to Self, to other person, to your community, to human values and to union with life and challenges that you have to face in making these choices * How creation of your own story keeps you in bondage and how you can change it * How self-forgiveness can set you free * The difference between guilt feelings and responsibility * The difference between a victim and a victim attitude * The illusion of romantic love, how it makes you unhappy and how you can move beyond it * The secret of true sharing * The power of counting your blessings * The balance of giving and receiving and how you can attain it * The spiral nature of process of life * How you can use love as a growth process * How you can use your life patterns as signposts for a fulfilled life

All this information and hand-on tools such as exercises and instructions I provide in my ebook “Beyond Suffering” at http://www.visioform.com/uk/ebook-joy.htm

You know, you are not on earth to measure up to someone else's expectations,but you are here to develop your potential - in direction and degree that you choose. It is your responsibility, though, to equip yourself to make wise choices, choices that will help you develop and feel good about yourself. Now, it is fine to ask others for advice or information, but final decision must be yours.

So, when you count your successes, make sure you count by your own standards, not someone else's!