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4. Don't overbook or overstay a good amount of time with relatives/friends. Sometimes a shorter stay works best and leaves you energy and space to get back to your own home and decompress.
5. Look for ways to give to or do for others. Feeling useful and appreciated will provide a great boost to your holiday spirits. Check into volunteer opportunities at local shelters and nursing homes or through any local church or nonprofit group.
6. Don't plan to spend entire holiday season with married /coupled family and friends. Seek out other singles and singles groups/ activities where you can feel relaxed and able to share with folks you have more in common with at this time. Better yet, plan a get together with other singles for one of holidays. A festive potluck meal, tree trimming party or other holiday event would probably be much appreciated.
7. Do avoid using food, alcohol or drugs to cope with holiday stress. Nothing is worse than feelings that follow use (or wrong use) of these things. This way of coping leads to depression, low self-esteem and a greater sense of isolation and despair.
8. Do decorate your home with any and all things that make it feel more festive and fun for YOU. Tune into all those wonderful traditions you grew up with. It does not have to be very costly or time consuming to begin your own traditions in your own place. Don't put off or deny yourself those happy holiday expressions, as you wait for your significant other. Make your life all it can be right now.
9. Consider emphasizing more spiritual aspects of holiday. Go to a concert featuring religious holiday music or attend a church (or other) service, (even better with a friend).
10. Finally, going away to an exotic place may be just what you do need. Look into tour or vacation packages for singles. This may provide plenty of rest and relaxation and help you meet new friends and develop new interests.
Whatever you decide to do for your holidays, have fun and enjoy them. Focus on taking care of yourself and doing what is right for you. This way you will also be giving your best to those around you. Happy Holidays!
Toni Coleman LCSW Consum-mate http://www.consum-mate.com 703-847-1768
Toni Coleman is a psychotherapist and relationship coach who specializes in working with singles wanting long term intimate relationships. She has over twenty years of experience working with individuals, couples and groups on relationship issues and problems. In her coaching practice she focuses on helping singles with all aspects of meeting, dating, communicating and achieving intimacy.