Men, I know this is old fashioned, but you should always treat on first date. It will show woman that you respect her and want to treat her well. This is going to give you a lot better chance of getting a second date…or even more.

Women, be gracious. If you are anything like me, you have a bit of a problem letting men be gentlemen. Letting them pick up tab without feeling like you should help, letting them open doors for you, and letting them pull chair out at table for you gives them a chance to be chivalrous. If you have found a man that is willing to do all of these things for you, accept it with thanks don’t fight it. Sometimes best thing you can do for another person is to let them do things for you and for you to appreciate it.

Try to relax. Go into this with attitude that if nothing else, you are making a friend. Fewer expectations lead to fewer disappointments. I am not saying you shouldn’t anticipate having a wonderful time, just don’t expect it. If you are lucky, you will hit it off wonderfully and be much more relaxed to enjoy it.

Lastly, don’t do anything out of a feeling of obligation. If you find you are not interested in this person whatsoever, you don’t have to stay. You are not obligated to spend a lot of time with someone that you just met. If you feel like your safety or (as it has been for me at times) your sanity is at stake, find a way to leave. If you can’t excuse yourself gracefully, then go out a back door. Remember your own safety and peace of mind is much more important than anything else. Pay attention to how you feel and act on it.

Now, get out there and have a stupendous time! It is time to really enjoy your life!

Be certain to give a close friend or family member all details.

By this I mean ALL details. They should know your plans for evening and when you expect to be home. You should also be sure to give them all information on identity of your date and their picture. If your plans change and you are going to be home later, just give them a call. Sure, this sounds like you are back home with your Mother again, but at least your safe. It really can’t hurt!

Listen to yourself!!!

This one can’t be stressed enough. We are all equipped with some sense of intuition. Whether it is faint or screaming in your ear. You should listen to what your senses are trying to tell you. Don't try to ignore or rationalize your fears. It is a simple golden rule for life: “If you don’t feel safe, you probably aren’t!” Don’t ignore this! If at any time you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, end date immediately. It is better to be wrong than be harmed.

The above are rules that I used to guide me during my journey through online dating. I found them very successful. In fact, because I was able to get to know my dates before we met, I felt safer than on so-called "traditional" first dates. You just don't get that opportunity when you meet someone at a bar, club, coffee shop or by any other means.

Keep in mind, these rules are only my suggestions. Your safety is truly up to you. Use your common sense. Make up your own rules. Whatever you do, stay safe and play safe and you will have a lot more fun!!