Time Management

Written by Kim Olver

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The second category would be spending time with people I care about---those people who nurture me. I protect time forrepparttar special man in my life, my sons, my extended family and my friends. There are some people whom I avoid when I am protecting my time. They arerepparttar 141932 ones who generally take more than they give. Do you have people like that in your life? If they canít be totally eliminated, at least minimizerepparttar 141933 time you give to these people.

The third category would be simply things that bring me pleasure or joy. There are things I do that I can do alone or with others when I need relaxation. I like to read a good book, watch a good movie, horseback ride, canoe, ski, walk inrepparttar 141934 woods and something I got to do this weekend---swim. Protect your time so that you get to dorepparttar 141935 things that bring you joy.

Organizing your time has to do with having a good time management system. Donít wait until something is due tomorrow to start on it. Have a good plan and systems in place so you are in charge of your time instead of your schedule being in charge of you. Learn more about time management systems in our Time Management teleclass.

Another aspect of organizing oneís time is maintaining laser-like focus. Did you know thatrepparttar 141936 average personís mind wanders around seven to eight times a minute? Developing good work habits that include staying focused untilrepparttar 141937 job is done is critical to organization.

Prioritizing your time has to do with deciding whatís most important. I said I have three categories---goal-oriented actions, time with important people and time doing enjoyable activities. They donít necessarily prioritize in that order.

There must be a balance. I know that when I spend too much time working, I start to feel on edge and tense. This is generally a strong indicator that I need to switch my focus to one ofrepparttar 141938 other areas. A person cannot be in control of their time if all they do is goal-oriented activity. A healthy balance is necessary for good time management and a healthy lifestyle.

To learn about stress management, visit www.Coachingforexcellence.biz and schedule a time management workshop for your workplace or check our events calendar for upcoming teleclasses, chats and workshops.

Kim Olver is a licensed professional counselor and a life/relationship coach. She helps people unleash their personal power and improve the quality of their relationships with the important people in their lives. For further information about Kim visit her website at www.TheRelationshipCenter.biz or contact her at (708) 957-6047.

Top Questions Series - How to deepen your sexual experience?

Written by Elisha Goldstein

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As you practice Mindful Sex you will give yourselfrepparttar chance to discover what it is that you really like and you will begin to feel more comfortable communicating that to whomever you are having sex with, even if that person is yourself (i.e., masturbation). Here isrepparttar 141886 gist:

As you begin to practice mindful sex, it is important to remember one thing: Whatever it is that you are doing, do it slightly slower than usual. This does not mean go in slow motion, it means just go slightly slower than you would think to go. As you move slightly slower, you give yourselfrepparttar 141887 opportunity to really be there in that moment and notice things that you may not have noticed. If you are giving a massage, you get to feel howrepparttar 141888 personís skin actually feels, is there a scent torepparttar 141889 oil? If so, inhale it. Ifrepparttar 141890 oil is edible, take an extra moment to lick it and truly taste it in your mouth. Look over your partner and take a moment to take in allrepparttar 141891 little nuances ofrepparttar 141892 personís body. By slightly slowing down, you also allow yourself to relax a bit, and this not only helps in making this a richer experience, but also helps reduce anxiety if that is an issue (e.g., being overly sensitive or premature ejaculation).

You can apply this in every moment of sex that you find yourself in. For example, when you are giving oral sex, go slightly slower and noticerepparttar 141893 smell and taste involved, feelrepparttar 141894 texture ofrepparttar 141895 other person, is it soft/rough? What doesrepparttar 141896 personís vagina or penis look like? As you go slightly slower youíll find that it is not so difficult to notice these things and it will draw you deeper intorepparttar 141897 experience and give yourepparttar 141898 gift that you have not been privy to experience inrepparttar 141899 past.

Ofcourse, you can apply this to intercourse as well. No matter your gender or sexual orientation, there is often some sort of sexual intercourse involved. It is important to let your partner know that you want to go slightly slower this time in whatever way you feel comfortable communicating that. Asrepparttar 141900 intercourse begins, noticerepparttar 141901 sensations you are feeling. All parts of you are experiencing sensations from your head to your penis or vagina to your feet. If you find yourself thinking about something, notice that you are thinking about something and gently bring yourself back to your sensations. If you find yourself judging your self orrepparttar 141902 other person, just notice that you are judging and gently bring yourself back to your sensations.


Paying attention to your sensations may also broaden your horizons on things you want to do. Maybe you notice that while having intercourse that you are not tasting anything so you decide to taste your partner by kissing or licking him/her. Maybe you want to smell your partner more to bring in that sensation. Maybe you open your ears and begin to hear whatrepparttar 141903 sex you are having sounds like. Maybe youíre now noticing forrepparttar 141904 first time what other areas of your body are being touched during intercourse besides your penis, vagina, or nipples. You might just discover an erotic area of your body that you had not noticed before (e.g., back ofrepparttar 141905 knees, toes).

Having mindful sex is simply a teaching and a suggestion. If a spontaneous act of aggressive sex comes out and it is not a slightly slowed down process, than that is Ok too. This is simply an opportunity to broaden your awareness about yourself duringrepparttar 141906 act of sex and deepeningrepparttar 141907 richness of your experience. Of all things we have to experiment with on this planet, this is surely one ofrepparttar 141908 top. So, responsibly, go off and try this out, have fun, and broaden your horizons! You may just find that sex is a far more sensual and sacred experience than you had previously imagined.

Elisha Goldstein is a 4th year doctoral student at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology in Palo Alto. He is currently exploring how the cultivation of sacred moments in daily life affects well-being and stress. If you would consider participating in this invaluable study, please go to http://sacredmomentstudy.blogspot.com You can also check out http://mindfulmoments.blogspot.com

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