Tick Tock Goes the Love ClockWritten by Advice Diva
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a bottom of food chain job and struggling on a $20K salary. These were days of buying raman noodles in bulk and picking up a bartending job in evenings. You can't even afford to date at this age. And if you could, when would you have time? Finally you get a better paying job and you move up in business world. But now you have entered a whole new social world. You are financially able to drop second job, get some new digs without holes in seams and start enjoying night scene with everyone else. Swiftly you discover beau monde and your life is consumed with keeping up to date with all of latest trends, making sure you look perfect in every way and of course making sure everyone thinks you are “it” guy or girl. How can you possibly start a relationship now? He or she might actually find out that your not fabulous. Besides, it is much more hip to have a new fling every week. This is period of our lives where we are all poseurs. After a few years of fun and reckless behavior, you get promoted to a more prominent position in business world. Now you realize your responsibility and you may even take it seriously. Your life might change, but your busy schedule does not. It just gets worse.
When you actually get involved in that serious relationship, you must devote time to it. To do so, you have to give up things that you don't necessarily want to give up. I always believed that we work so that we can have time. We buy time. We work so that we are able to luxuriate in vacations with our loved ones and so we can buy expensive lingerie to keep spark alive. But instead of spending as much time as we can with our sweethearts, we end up spending our time washing car, burning flab in pilates class, picking up cat food and cursing poor slob who broke down in middle of a one lane road during rush hour. We are so greedy and obsessed with our appearance and materialistic needs that we find it difficult to give our own time, our most precious commodity, to someone else. Then again, when we daydream about kind of future life we want, we envision a life surrounded by family and friends, a house in burbs, a loving spouse and children and spending days at home being independantly wealthy. We see ourselves doing what we really want and need: spending time in arms of our darlings.
The Advice Diva has written four self-help guides on relationships and dating which can be found at http://www.advicediva.com She also hosts an online advice column which is completely free of charge. The Diva does not claim to be an expert in any field. However, she has the ability to understand relationships through past experience and her incredible insight.
African Dating - Pride and AmbitionWritten by Frank Duru
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Control Freak It's true that relationships are about giving... but if you have to give up all of your free time or interests to appease your date, it's time to take back control and walk away.
Now that you have an idea of what to avoid when dating, here are some of things to look for:
Beauty is Only Skin Deep - Of course appearance is an important part of dating, but remember that it isn't only aspect that should attract you. Look for someone who's intelligent; someone with personality.
Common Sense This is an attribute that goes a long way, and is a good indication that your date is knowledgeable, and can think on their own two feet.
Self-Respect Any date that has self-respect, will take pride in their own ambitions, and should also respect yours.
There is no reason why you should feel pressured into perusing a relationship with someone who does not interest you, or who is looking for different goals. You need to think about what you want, and give it all you've got. And you can be sure, if it is meant to be, love will find a way to reach your heart.
Frank Duru is the author of many different articles but his works concentrate much on dating related information, such as “Homosexual Dating - Truth and Connection”, “Asian Dating - Respect and Honour”. The list goes on! He is the owner of loveempire.net. An interracial Dating Site.