On other hand, Dr. Abrams-Spring, author of classic "After Affair," cautions that quickly and easily forgiving a cheating partner indicates low self-esteem. In her view, forgiveness must be earned by offending partner, but given automatically.

Reasons to forgive

Studies have shown that there are measurable benefits to forgiveness:

- Forgiving is good for your health. Studies show that people who forgive report fewer health problems while people who blame others for their troubles have a higher incidence of illness such as cardiovascular disease and cancers.

- Forgiving is good for your peace of mind. Scientific research shows that forgiveness often improves your peace of mind. A 1996 study showed that more people forgave those who hurt them, less angry they were.

- Two studies of divorced people show that those who forgave their former spouse were healthier emotionally than those who chose not to forgive. The forgivers had a higher sense of well being and lower anxiety and depression.

Forgiveness tips

It is common for angry people to think, "I want to forgive, and I know I should, but I don't know how." Here are some starting points:

Tip 1: Remember, forgiveness is a process that takes time and patience to complete. You must be ready. Realize that forgiveness is for you - not for anyone else.

Tip 2: Realize that forgiving does not mean you are condoning actions of offender or what they did to you. It does mean that you will blame less and find a way to think differently about what happened to you.

Tip 3: Refocus on positives in your life. A life well lived is best revenge. People who find a way to seee love, beauty and kindness around them are better able to forgive and get past their grievances.

There are many ways in which you can use of power of concentration here are but a few:- · The breaking of bad habits · Business projects especially if you are self employed · Moral characteristics you may wish to strengthen or create · The acquisition of wealth · A new Romantic partner or strengthening your existing relationship.

While performing following exercises you should have steady, deep breathing, but do not exert yourself. During meditation deep breathing helps mind to remain still and calm. In fact a good exercise is simply to concentrate on your inhale and exhaling, while doing so you let any thoughts that arise from your mind just drift on by, do not think about them just let them go.

Exercise One. Take a simple thought for example health, think of yourself in full health, think of that warm glow, relaxed feeling you have when you're feeling healthy. Try to maintain this thought for as long as possible, don’t let other thoughts intrude, concentrate completely upon yourself. This is a good exercise to start with as it is not to specific, as it will allow only thoughts and images about yourself to intrude upon your mental process.

Exercise Two. Hold your arm out in front of you at shoulder height. Raise your hand slightly so you can see your fingernails, concentrate upon your fingernails trying to keep your arms steady for at least one minute. Each time you perform this exercise try to extend concentration time a little longer until performing exercise for up to five minutes. Do this exercise with both arms.

Exercise Three. Take a glass of water and hold it in front of you, fix your attention upon top of glass. Try to keep your arm as steady as possible concentrate upon ripples your aim is to see no ripples, no movement within water at all.

Exercise Four. This exercise can be performed by either standing or sitting. Take a piece of plain paper and draw a visible dot in center, place paper on wall in front of you and concentrate upon dot. When you are relaxed imagine air that you are breathing in is coming from dot and air you are exhaling is going into dot. Start performing this exercise for at least five minutes and increase up to at least 20 minutes.

Exercise Five. There is no time limit set upon this particular exercise, but if practiced on a regular basis can open your mind to its inner potential. Take a clock, one you can hear ticking, your aim is not to concentrate upon ticks, but upon spaces between ticks. As you gain experience with this exercise you may well notice that ticks begin to dissolve in your mind and time between ticks becomes extended. But longer you can perform this exercise and deeper you can concentrate while doing it, your perception of time begins to disappear, exercise is completed in no time at all.

It is only after an extensive use of these exercises that we begin to appreciate benefits of concentration, like learning to ride a bike once we have mastered Art it is something that never leaves us.