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Well,
reason I thought I’d become depressed was because of a series of traumatic events occurring at
same time. I was wrong. The root cause of my depression lay in
ways I reacted to them. One of
ways I’d reacted was to blame myself for events I couldn’t control. The more I blamed myself,
more I beat myself up. The more I beat myself up,
more my self-esteem decreased.
The phrases I have used to briefly illustrate self-deprecating phrases we continually use against
self are mild. I’m sure you realize that many people use much stronger phrases than I’ve given here. The point is that these phrases would be totally unacceptable to say to others. You wouldn’t tell a person that they were boring, an effort to be with and that everyone found their company dull and it would be better for everyone else if they kept away from people.
Agreed?
Yet, if I say to people:
“Pay yourself compliments. Accentuate your good in all areas of your life. Write down your good points, your triumphs, your achievements. Remind yourself as often as possible about all
good you have done.”
They look at me like I’m an alien and say they’d feel stupid. Or uncomfortable. Or even embarrassed.
Yet they don’t feel any of these emotions when they talk to themselves using emotionally charged, self-deprecating phrases! And like rust upon metal, these phrases gradually erode our self-esteem and our confidence.
OK, here’s
bottom-line. I’d like you to inscribe what you are about to read into your mind over and over again until it is permanently etched there:
It is NEVER acceptable to talk to myself in a way I know is inappropriate and even offensive if I spoke in
same way to others. Time for me to sign off, but before I do, here’s a phrase I say to myself every single day without fail. Please use it, it is very powerful:
“If you put yourself down, down is where you will stay.”

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