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It is proverbial elephant sitting in room that no one dare talk about. People take extraordinary measures to tip toe around it, but it IS there. Emotionally, you canít miss it.
Secrets are a drain. If secret persists, its impact is felt in subtle but insidious ways. People become physically ill, sometimes seriously so. People become depressed. People start doing crazy things.
Children start acting out, stop achieving, become listless or exhibit a host of other symptoms. Children, or next generation, often carry emotional load.
You want to spy because you donít want to live with a secret. You want to discover truth. You want to feel freeing power of exposed secret and opportunity it offers for healing, resolution, a rich relationship and a productive life.
4. Some of us like drama. Soap opera scenarios and adrenaline based lives are a hallmark of our society. We get juiced or pumped up entering into emotional relational triangles that offer intrigue.
Without adrenaline, life seems boring or mundane. Perhaps an unspoken reason for an affair may be to fan fire? Or, you may spy on your cheating spouse to keep sense of being alive a part of your life.
Dr. Huizenga, the "Infidelity Coach," hosts the free Website: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com , which helps couples deal with emotional infidelity and Extramarital affairs. If you think your spouse is cheating, visit today.