The Top 10 Rights You Don’t Have

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7.To lie and sleep well at night.

Authenticity has its own rewards, one of them being that you can look inrepparttar mirror and likerepparttar 126134 person you look at.

8.To judge and criticize others and feel good about yourself.

When we judge others, we’re asking forrepparttar 126135 same in return. It’s often allied to perfectionism, which is a formula designed to make you miserable. Demanding perfection of yourself or anyone else is a sure-fire way to be unhappy.

9.Unconditional love.

Even Freud saidrepparttar 126136 only true love was that of a mother for her son (he being a son, of course, to a mother.) Aside from that there are always "conditions" to mortal love and that’s just something you’ll have to deal with.

10.To not be bored.

Your boredom is in your own hands, or rather in your own brain. You must keep generating new experiences and challenges for yourself, and learn to look at old things with new eyes. Your brain needs justrepparttar 126137 same workout as your body does. Studies are showing we can keep generating new cells and new connections throughout our lifetime WIThrepparttar 126138 right stimulation.

New toys and new playmates must constantly be sought! Get out of your field, and out of your element often enough to keep yourself interested. It’s up to you!

©Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach, . Coaching, internet courses, teleclasses and ebooks on Emotional Intelligence. for free ezine (put “ezine” for subject line). I train and certify EQ coaches. Email me for info on this fast, affordable, no-residency program.

Distinction: Adjusting vs. Adapting

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach & Consultant

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ADAPTATION REQUIRED: Tina's husband divorced her. He took most ofrepparttar couple's assets and left her with allrepparttar 126133 debts, so she was forced to file bankruptcy. Because ofrepparttar 126134 social set they moved in, she lost many friends. Atrepparttar 126135 same time her last child left for college, she got downsized, her mother died, and she developed breast cancer.

ADJUSTING: You know you can do it. You just may not want to.

ADAPTING: You have a sense you don't have what it takes to cope with it.

Key Point

Understandingrepparttar 126136 changes that adaptation will require helps you throughrepparttar 126137 transition, which is often more like a metamorphosis. It can feel like having to grow wings! When you face a situation requiring ADJUSTING, you think, "Things have changed." When you face a situation requiring ADAPTING, you think, "I will never berepparttar 126138 same again."


Much more of you is required in an adaptation. Major life changes will require you to leave major things behind, and learn new ways, sometimes new ways of "being". It can be as challenging as learning to breathe air instead of water. An adaptation requires strong emotional intelligence skills, which can be learned.

Related distinctions

Your new in-laws speak with a heavy Southern drawl vs. Your new in-laws speak only Russian

You have a new baby boy vs. your wife gives birth to quintuplets You break your ankle in a car accident vs. You lose both your legs in a car accident

©Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach & Consultant, and author of “Midlife Dating Manual for Women,” . Coaching individuals through transitions. I offer coaching, internet courses, teleclasses and ebooks around emotional intelligence. It train and certify EQ coaches. for info on this fast, affordable, comprehensive, no-residency program. For free EQ ezine, email me and put “ezine” for subject line.

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