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ADAPTATION REQUIRED: Tina's husband divorced her. He took most of couple's assets and left her with all debts, so she was forced to file bankruptcy. Because of social set they moved in, she lost many friends. At same time her last child left for college, she got downsized, her mother died, and she developed breast cancer.
ADJUSTING: You know you can do it. You just may not want to.
ADAPTING: You have a sense you don't have what it takes to cope with it.
Understanding changes that adaptation will require helps you through transition, which is often more like a metamorphosis. It can feel like having to grow wings! When you face a situation requiring ADJUSTING, you think, "Things have changed." When you face a situation requiring ADAPTING, you think, "I will never be same again."
Much more of you is required in an adaptation. Major life changes will require you to leave major things behind, and learn new ways, sometimes new ways of "being". It can be as challenging as learning to breathe air instead of water. An adaptation requires strong emotional intelligence skills, which can be learned.
Your new in-laws speak with a heavy Southern drawl vs. Your new in-laws speak only Russian
You have a new baby boy vs. your wife gives birth to quintuplets You break your ankle in a car accident vs. You lose both your legs in a car accident
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