The Top 10 Reasons to Live as if There's No Tomorrow

Written by Susan Dunn, M.A., The EQ Coach


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7. Because "What is left unsaid gets inrepparttar way ofrepparttar 131025 relationship. What is left unasked-for is a missed opportunity." -- Thomas Leonard

8. Because "When someone is doing something ... you must communicate immediately or forever carryrepparttar 131026 extra burden of your unspoken reaction." -- Thomas Leonard

9. Because of this, "Just do what you can do, don't say what you can do." -- Thomas Leonard

Because we don't really have a future, and nothing is certain, don't talk about how you can help someone, or what you plan to do, don't make great plans and live in your head, pick up a broom and sweep their house. Do something. Do it now.

10. Because tomorrow may never come.

Susan Dunn, M.A., The EQ Coach, offers individual coaching in transitions, strengths, resilience and optimism. Visit her on the web at www.susandunn.cc and mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for FREE ezine.


Use Your EQ When You're the Mother-in-Law

Written by Susan Dunn The EQ Coach


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"Use Your EQ When You'rerepparttar Mother-in-Law," by Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach

Kelly and I have a great relationship, I'm grateful to say, but I'm stillrepparttar 131022 mother-in-law. If you are one, or have one, you'll probably agree it's a relationship that requires finesse. "Finesse" is another word for "emotional intelligence."

All those mother-in-law jokes are out there for a reason. I'd say it's hardest to berepparttar 131023 mother ofrepparttar 131024 son, but you might disagree! Anyway, Kelly is married to my only son, andrepparttar 131025 mother of my only grandchildren. There are times when I feel very vulnerable in that situation, having to ask permission and all.

My granddaughter's now old enough to come for visits. When I call to invite her, it's been hard to come up with justrepparttar 131026 right way to do it. After all, Meg is "hers" and not "mine."

Recently I read an article about something called "anodyne therapy." You know how when they're getting ready to stick a needle in your thumb they say, "This is going to sting a little bit"? Well, in anodyne therapy, they say, "Notice how quickly your thumb becomes numb."

"Anodyne" means "serving to assuage pain, or not likely to offend or arouse tensions."

When I received an email from my daughter-in-law talking about allrepparttar 131027 "projects" she had going on, I figured out a better way to ask her. Kelly's always got something going on - painting, wallpapering, gardening - and of course they're harder to do with repparttar 131028 little ones underfoot. Lately I call and say, "Want to have some time to do that wallpapering? How about if I take Meg for a couple of days?"

This takesrepparttar 131029 focus off what's being given up, and places it on something Kelly really wants - more time to do her projects. Anodyne - not likely to offend or arouse tensions. That's EQ!

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