5. His heart’s not on line.

You sense an imbalance of vulnerability, and this is intuitive. When two available people are dating, both presumably are anxious for it to work out, and are equally at-risk. When you’re playing for keeps and he’s just playing, he won’t care as much about how you’re getting along. He has security of marriage and nothing to lose but an exciting good time.

6. There’s a white line on fourth finger of his left hand, a tan-line from where his wedding ring usually is, and is not when he’s with you. Or there’s outline of a ring in his shirt pocket.

7. After an appropriate amount of time he doesn't suggest meeting each other's friends.

8. He gives strange reasons for not wanting to go to certain places (like your favorite restaurant).

You first met him at a dance hall (where he’s known and someone might tell his wife) and after that every place he takes you to is in another county. (There's a part of town he definitely avoids. Guess why?)

9. He pays for restaurants, motels, resorts, and airplane tickets in cash rather than by credit card.

10. He is never available on Sundays. In some cultures, and with many men, Saturday night may be Boys Night Out, but Sunday is strictly “family time.” Ditto for holidays. This is part of that peculiar male honor code: OK to cheat. But not on July 4th. That's family time.

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Stop right now!

That is not way to go. You are attracting negative elements into your life. Yes, you have to work harder, dig deeper, and sacrifice more to attain your ambitions. But no, you don't have to hate world and feel bad about your difficult situation. Remember Law of Attraction. If you hate world, world hates you back.

So what do you have to do?

Learn to love your current situation. See all positive sides of life. Be enthusiastic. Love your boss, your coworkers, your family, your friends, and even strangers that you meet on streets. It may not be easy, but nothing is impossible with a strong will power. Just don't fall in love so much that you totally forget about your dreams.

Balance is key. Dream and take some positive action to move you toward your goals. Take it one step at a time. But while you're slowly crawling into long journey to success, be patient and be as enthusiastic as possible. Don't hurry up too much that you totally forget how to enjoy life.

One fine day, you will finally attain what you have always longed for. But when that day comes, don't spit back on face of those who belittled you before.

Stay humble. Don't look down on others when you see that you are becoming more successful than they are. Help them. Inject your positive aura into their personalities. When you give, you will yield back equal or greater rewards.

Are you ready to begin journey? Start it with courage and desire to improve your life. Survive and go through it with persistence, enthusiasm, and positive thinking. Finish it with a resounding bang of accomplishment and with desire to help others succeed as well.