The Thriver's Secrets to Success™: It Starts With Your Attitude - Get a Grip and Go®!

Written by Gail H. Stone


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3. Thrivers don't get stopped in their tracks inrepparttar face of adversity. They pause and catch their breath and then start making plans on how to get through it with their hearts and minds intact. Positive psychologists call this "creative construing" -repparttar 122646 art of reframingrepparttar 122647 events in our lives and assigning a meaning to them that pulls us forward and helps us thrive rather than worry.

4. Thrivers consider life's challenges "growth opportunities" rather than hassles. Thrivers are able to creatively "compartmentalize" each challenge in their lives as a temporary blip rather than a permanent situation. They also use what Dr. Pearsall calls "their mental delete key" to get let go of bad things when they are over - what scholar Alan Watts calls having a "forgettory", which isrepparttar 122648 opposite of memory.

5. Thrivers have an attitude of gratitude. Because they have faced many unpleasant and usually life-threatening challenges in their lives, they are thankful for allrepparttar 122649 riches they receive. They don't walk around thinking life is a death sentence; they realize its LIFE and are grateful to be living theirs.

6. Thrivers are optimistic and hopeful, not just some times, but all ofrepparttar 122650 time. They look forrepparttar 122651 bright side and always assume that things will get better somehow, if they just keep believing. "Positive psychologists see hope and optimism as essential to surviving, recovering from and eventually thriving because of adversity", writes Dr. Pearsall.

7. Thrivers trust that there is a plan and a point to life. They believe in some greater force for good which guides us all, whether they call that force God, Yahweh, Allah, Great Spirit, Divine Mystery,repparttar 122652 Universe or any ofrepparttar 122653 myriad of names that people have forrepparttar 122654 Universal Consciousness.

8. Thrivers act "as if" and trust that sooner than later, they will become what they envision they already are. Some people call thisrepparttar 122655 "fake it until you make it" approach. Dr. Paul Pearsall calls thisrepparttar 122656 "great pretenders" trait. Whether it's being applied to reach a specific goal or just make it through a very tough time, thrivers use their imagination in creative ways to enhancerepparttar 122657 quality of their lives inrepparttar 122658 current moment.

9. Thrivers know that you can't go it alone. They realize that it's not only important but imperative to have a team of people around them who love, support and encourage them in their efforts. Thrivers reciprocate in kind. They knowrepparttar 122659 sum is greater than its parts and they facilitate teamwork everywhere they go - at home, inrepparttar 122660 office and in their communities.

10. Thrivers dream big,they believe in their dreams and they invest their time and energy into creating a way to make those dreams come true. They know that what they envision can come true. As Napoleon Hill so aptly stated in his landmark book, Think and Grow Rich, "Verily, there is nothing, right or wrong, which belief, plus burning desire cannot make true. These qualities are free to everyone." So, thrivers hold their goal in sight and keep believing that it will happen. And they are also willing to "let go and let God" handlerepparttar 122661 final outcome.

So, how would becoming a thriver affect you and your success in life? Just consider with whom you would rather do business or be around - a person flourishing or one languishing through life? Think about that and start cultivating some of these qualities. I also highly recommend these two wonderful books for anyone who wants to read more about thrivers - The Beethoven Factor by Dr. Paul Pearsall and The Eagle's Secret by David McNally.

I'll leave you with a quote from Marianne Williamson to inspire you to start thriving.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small doesn't serverepparttar 122662 world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to manifestrepparttar 122663 glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to dorepparttar 122664 same."



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The Four Laws Of Leadership (part One)

Written by Brent Filson


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Law 2. Motivation is their choice. Many leaders are clueless about motivation because they think it's their own choice. They think because they simply want people to be motivated, people should automatically be motivated. That misunderstanding has caused many a leader to come to grief. The act of their being motivated is not your choice, it's theirs, always. Motivation can't be done to people. People must "do" motivation to themselves. Leaders communicate, andrepparttar people they lead motivate themselves.

Law 3. Emotion drives motivation. The words emotion and motivation come fromrepparttar 122645 same Latin root "to move". When you want to move people to take action, engage their emotions. Motivation involves emotionally commitment.

Law 4. Face-to-face speech is generallyrepparttar 122646 best way to motivate people (i.e., have those people choose to be motivated.)

With these concepts in mind, you can begin to get a clear understanding of motivation by studyingrepparttar 122647 past.

This exercise will sharpen your ideas on motivation. Who wererepparttar 122648 three most effective leaders in history? Why were they effective? Who wererepparttar 122649 three least effective? Why were they ineffective? Who arerepparttar 122650 most effective leaders in your industry? Why are they effective? Who arerepparttar 122651 least effective leaders in your industry? Why are they ineffective? Who arerepparttar 122652 most effective leaders in your organization? Why are they ineffective?

Now go back over each answer and tie it to motivation or lack there of. What motivational lesson is there in each answer? In doing so, you may find yourself changing and sharpening your ideas about motivation; and hence changing and sharpening your leadership skills.

In Part Two, I will expand on each law.

2005 © The Filson Leadership Group, Inc. All rights reserved.

Brent Filson is the founder and president of The Filson Leadership Group, Inc. – and for more than 20 years has been helping leaders of top companies worldwide get audacious results. Sign up for his free leadership e-zine and get a free white paper: "49 Ways To Turn Action Into Results," at http://www.actionleadership.com


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