I knew I had to take responsibility for what I was feeling and call my mother. I took a deep breath and picked up phone.

After an awkward beginning my mother and I were able to communicate about what had happened. We acknowledged what we both were feeling and were each able to take responsibility for our part. Toward end of conversation she asked me how we could make sure this wouldn’t happen between us again.

In responding to her question lesson of this experience became crystal clear to me.

It occurred to me that we COULDN’T make sure that it wouldn’t ever happen again. Despite all learning and best intentions chances are we will get caught up in same old same old. This was actually a comforting thought. Perhaps, best we could hope for is HOW we would respond when it DID happen again.

There is a powerful distinction between reacting and responding. Reacting often feels emotional, unconscious, and out of control. Responding on other hand comes from awareness. Having ability to choose how you wish to engage in whatever situation life presents.

What if you could unlearn behavior that keeps you stuck in reaction and discover new skills that could improve your relationships? How might your life be different?

Here are some ideas to practice that will help build your ability to respond:

1. Become curious about what is underneath your reaction. Is it fear? Anger? How old is it? What might you need to do in order to take care of real issue?

2. Act sooner. Don’t let feelings build into resentments. Head things off before they’re huge.

3. Communicate. Let person know what’s coming up for you.

4. Don’t blame. Intend to see how you can use whatever is happening for your own evolution.

5. Make agreements. Create a safe space for yourself to maximize your success.

This experience has helped me embrace rather than resist this ageless dynamic with my mother. I am truly looking forward to our next visit as an opportunity to practice responding with greater awareness.

Now, when I reflect back on Ram Dass test, I can honestly say…after all, I didn’t do too badly.

It’s your life…imagine possibilities

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Your effectiveness in learning and using auto-suggestion will depend largely on your determination to concentrate on your desire with emotion and strong feelings.

Well, how do I get there?

The most direct route to sub-conscious is through your emotions. The most effective route to your emotions is to visualize what you desire.

The visualizing will help emotions to feel reality and truth of what you're are self-suggesting. Without conscious or unconscious auto-suggestion, then you are ignoring (again) great powers of your mind and cheating yourself from life's most wonderful blessings.

Someone said to me, "I can't go around saying I have something I don't have." Why not? You do all time. Every time you sneeze, you say, I coming down with a cold. And, then you get one. Every time something goes wrong at work, you say, that's just my rotten luck. And, then bottom falls out.

You ever heard this? "Next time we buy those tickets to go on a vacation, I guarantee you those kids will get sick and we'll lose money for those plane tickets". And, then it happened and you said, "See there I told you so". And, you go around patting yourself on back so everyone could see how smart you are just like you prophesied it. Duh, need I say again ?

You mean I have to lie?

Remember, sub-conscious does not know difference between truth and lie. It just uses it's unknown and unexplainable powers to bring to pass "words" that come out of your mouth. That's what it was made to do. That's all it knows how to do.

Start saying this out loud everyday; multiple times everyday; "Day by Day, in every way, I'm getting Prettier and Prettier!" or, richer and richer; or, whatever. Now I hope I don't have to tell you this, but, don't go around saying I'm getting Dummer and Dummer. (again) don't laugh, some people do. I like to say I'm getting prettier and prettier. Lol he he! Yeah, that's right.

After you've said that several hundred times, you will begin waking up saying it. You'll be walking down street and it will just pop in your mind. That is auto-suggestion. When it comes up from somewhere down inside you, and you didn't even have to think it up, then you are learning powers of your mind.

An Example: True Story!

It was 3 am in intensive care room of a local hospital. Two nurses were keeping close watch over their patient whom had had a massive heart attack. The nurses noticed his vital signs had stopped. They were frantic and one said to other, "Do you have a pulse"? She said no.

The patient, being a student of auto-suggestion and powers of his mind, heard everything they were saying but he couldn't communicate with them and tell them he was ok.

He then remembered an affirmation he was taught. "You can do anything, if you believe you can". He forced his eyelids open and nurses then knew he was ok.

He recovered and here is interesting part. He later testified he felt it was so amusing at how frantic nurses were. You see, his mind could not be influenced by their fearful suggestions. He had trained his brain to only be influenced by what he fed it. Go Thou and do likewise!

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