Does sound of his laughter fill you with joy? Listen to actual sound of his laughter. Does sound make your heart go pitter patter? It doesn't matter if he sounds like thunder on a summer day or if he giggles like a little girl! What matters is that his laughter is infectious and makes your heart lighten. Imagine coming home from a really bad day at work. Upon entering house, you hear his laughter coming from kitchen. Does that sound lift your spirits? Or infuriate you even more? You want to be with someone who's laughter makes your heart sing. Laughter is best medicine and you want to chose a man who's laughter heals your weary mind.

Do you laugh at same things? Yes, you want to be your own person with your own interests and your own unique sense of self, but you also want to share good times with your partner. You need to pick someone who has a similar sense of humor to your own. There's nothing worse then having your partner roll their eyes like you're so uncool every time you burst out laughing. What determines a person's sense of humor is wide and varied, including upbringing and level of education. If you share same overall sense of humor, chances are that you are fairly compatible in those areas. You're somewhat on same wave length.

Do you laugh at same time? You want to pretty much agree on when is proper time and place for goofing around and making each other laugh. If he likes to crack jokes and laugh a lot during foreplay and you find it to be a total turn off, then you're going to have problems. If he keeps laughing at your girlfriends when you're trying to have a serious conversation, then you're not going to get along so well. This also works in other direction. If you're one who is constantly laughing and joking and he's one getting upset that your timing is inappropriate, then you're not going to like hanging out with a fuddy duddy. Compatibility shows itself in little things like timing.

If you've already got a guy and you're considering spending rest of your life with him, start watching his laughter. Decide if things you see are what you want in a lifetime companion. If you don't have a man, imagine sitting at kitchen table over coffee and hearing his laughter at something witty you've just said. How would it sound? How would it feel to be in his presence when he was laughing? Look for a man who's laughter heals you rather than grates on your nerves. And make sure you both laugh together and often. It'll get you both through tough times.

Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's Edge

The chances of a black woman finding a single, 33 – 39-year-old, heterosexual, college educated, successful African American male in a 1 percent population is about .16 percent. The 1 percent includes those men in cities and their surrounding suburbs with large urban populations, such as Chicago, Atlanta, Washington, D.C., New York, Oakland, and Detroit.

Essence magazine’s advice columnist, Gwen Grant, stated in Savannah Morning News, 2002, that educated black women should expand their selection to dating outside their race. If not, they will continue to have limited options.

The most extraordinary statistic is that only 22 percent of an African American woman’s life span will be spent in marriage.

Won’t Be Denied, a 227-page novel, shines a light into an obsessed, single African American female. In well-crafted suspense novel, author C.F. Jackson, graduate from Georgia Southern University with a BS degree in Criminal Justice, lays out story in two sentences: Love won’t be denied. Maré comes to value it more than life. The story is set in Atlanta, Georgia. It is an easy, suspenseful read. The character-driven plot is a page-turner.

For more information, or to purchase Won’t Be Denied (ISBN 0-9762230-0-7), contact publisher, Organized Thoughts Publishing: Post Office Box 920622, Norcross, GA 30010 or www.cfjackson.us. Bookstores and libraries in U.S. can order Won’t Be Denied through Baker & Taylor database. To be released on November 9, 2004.

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