I often say that there is nothing in this world that can make me mad, angry or sad without my consent. It is my life.

Oh, I hear you saying that you have heard this kind of thing so often. Let me add subtle twist I promised. And you listen carefully henceforth.

In every behavior there is a positive intention. And in every of your reaction/response to whatever situation confronts you there is something we will call 'secondary gains'.

I am going to be slow here, because I need us to be reading on same page.

When somebody does something to you, they may be annoying to you. But, what is positive intention of their behavior? What purpose is that behavior serving? From their point of view? You may find that they are trying to protect themselves or preserve a particular status quo. Or that they are trying to get something. Maybe your attention or some peace of mind. You might be irritating them.

When your respond to their behavior (in whatever way) you are thinking of how their behavior benefits you or how it does not benefit you. So, your behavior (which I maintain is not caused by them) might also be a way of protecting yourself from some 'perceived danger or intrusion'. And all time you are thinking of your own benefits in unfolding drama.

What am I asking to make of all this.

Respond to all situations in a way that acknowledges positive intention as well as your own secondary gains. If two (situation's positive intention and your 'secondary gains') are in conflict, adopt an attitude of 'it's not so much what happens to me that matters. It is how I deal with experience that matters'.

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According to Quantum Physics, focusing actually causes changes in energy fields that automatically produce a physical change in your surroundings.

Instead of focusing on problem, you need to focus on solution—the outcome that you desire. Unfortunately 95% percent of people focus on what they fear, instead of what they want out of life.

It’s kind of like driving down road and seeing a pothole. If you focus intently on staring at pothole, intending to miss it, what happens? Of course! You run smack dab into it.

It’s same in all areas of life. When you focus on your fears, you make them reality.

Do you worry about spending money educating yourself to reach your goals? Are you afraid that you may be throwing away money that you may never see again? Are you operating in a spirit of fear?

As Sir Winston Churchill is so often quoted, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” This statement hits nail on head. It literally is 100 percent true.

Focus instead on realizing that you must have proper tools and education to succeed.

You wouldn’t try to build a house without a good set of tools and some construction knowledge.

Focus on doing exactly what it takes to get outcome you want.

With that in mind, key to success is more you focus on what you want, more your desires will manifest themselves in your life.