The Secret of Creating Lasting Romance

Written by Michael Skowronski

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We all respond to our feelings andrepparttar feelings we pick up from others much more than we consciously realize. These feelings push and pull us, most don’t know why they go where they do, but yet they do go. Your work is to become conscious ofrepparttar 122398 energies at play in your life and romantic relationships give you plenty of chances to generaterepparttar 122399 widest variety of feelings.

Negativity that you feel towards your partner will be noticed. Most people are not aware enough to turn away from this negativity so you are likely to arouse similar negativities within them or push them away from you if they do not wish to engage in them.

If your partner did something you did not like, of course you will feel bad. Butrepparttar 122400 solution,repparttar 122401 answer torepparttar 122402 desire that is born from that event, comes from focusing on what you do desire. You don’t do battle withrepparttar 122403 problem, you turn away from it and walk towards what you do want.

One day I was in my girlfriend’s kitchen preparing a meal (we’ll call her Shelia). I put a skillet onrepparttar 122404 burner and turned it onto high to preheat it.

Shelia came in and upon seeingrepparttar 122405 skillet being heated with nothing in it became angry. “You’re going to ruin my pans! Don’t do that!” she snapped as she turnedrepparttar 122406 heat off.

I was in a particularly clear space at that point in time and I decided to try turning her anger into love. I focused on many things about her that I loved and appreciated. I focused on some ofrepparttar 122407 nice vacations we had taken together and onrepparttar 122408 feelings of making love with her.

I said nothing in my defense nor did anything else. Shelia said a few more derogatory words and then leftrepparttar 122409 room. Whenrepparttar 122410 meal was ready I went to get her. She then blasted me with a few choice things from our past.

Here is where so many relationships go wrong. As you can see Sheila was still holding on to past issues. There is this accumulation process that most people do when something hurts them, they hang on to it and when other painful events occur at later times those old hurts also come torepparttar 122411 foreground and receive focus. Even though I know how destructive this can be, I still catch myself doing it.

Sheila was focusing on what she did not want, not on what she did want. There was only one bad thing that happened yet she multiplied it into at least five other things. Thus increasingrepparttar 122412 intensity of her bad experience.

What affect would Sheila’s actions have had on you? I could feel it draw a very defensive and negative energy out of me. This is a great example ofrepparttar 122413 creation process in action.

I was determined to keep my good feeling state of mind. I reached for better feeling thoughts about Sheila. I realized that she was already annoyed atrepparttar 122414 kangaroos that were eatingrepparttar 122415 new grass she had just planted. I knew of other things had gone bad for her that day too. So I could understand how she got so angry when she discoveredrepparttar 122416 empty skillet I was overheating. These thoughts gave me compassion for her.

I also reminded myself that I am a good partner. I treat her well. I am only trying to make lunch for us both. I have done nothing wrong. All of these thoughts helped me to feel better about myself and remain centered. Rather than defend myself I said to Sheila, “These things have no bearing on this incident. In fact we have already sorted them out. Please, let’s go and enjoy a nice meal together.”

I continued to holdrepparttar 122417 thoughts of good times with Shelia. It was not even an hour later thatrepparttar 122418 whole energy between us changed. We had a very nice and romantic connection forrepparttar 122419 rest ofrepparttar 122420 day. Things like this used to cause us many hours or even days of disconnection. I am certain thatrepparttar 122421 shift I made in my energy maderepparttar 122422 difference in this case.

So often people think thatrepparttar 122423 romance in their life is due torepparttar 122424 things they do. I know it is easy to believe this. However, if your actions are not in alignment with your thoughts and feelings then you are only wasting your energy and cutting yourself off from your Source.

There are many books that teach you how to re-kindlerepparttar 122425 love you once knew. They are full of great techniques and ideas. These are very helpful, butrepparttar 122426 actions you take must be inspired actions; inspired byrepparttar 122427 love and appreciation you have for your partner. So keep seeking out those things to admire and appreciate in your partner and in yourself.

Michael Skowronski is a spiritually oriented Life Coach and Counselor. He offers the free “Walk On Water” ezine and sells the “Facts of Life” ecourse from his website. Michael also offers Teleclasses and an Apprenticeship Group. Please email comments or questions to

Necessary Ingredients to Transformation

Written by Sebastian

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Support & Confirmation If you were going to jump off a cliff into unknown waters wouldn't you want to be able to speak to someone who has already jumped off that cliff? For years I languished atrepparttar edge of this cliff feeling alienated fromrepparttar 122397 world, but not knowing how, or feeling able to move on. One day I met someone who was ready to leap as well and immediately we were both launched into a rapid series of transformational experiences... I don't think it would have been possible withoutrepparttar 122398 mutual support we gave to each other. This isrepparttar 122399 main impetus behindrepparttar 122400 founding of WFIH (Worldwide Fellowship of Integral Humans). I urge you to userepparttar 122401 resources onrepparttar 122402 site to hook up with others onrepparttar 122403 Journey, and to share your experiences. It could make allrepparttar 122404 difference to someone at a critical time. The Course In Miracles says, "To have peace, give peace"... and we can extrapolate... to have Love, give Love. To have a friend, be a friend. To get support, give support. You do not have to feel you are far advanced to reach out and give support or information or just a loving acceptance or embrace. Just as importantly, someone who is new torepparttar 122405 Path or even a child can reveal an enlightening truth at any time. Out ofrepparttar 122406 mouths of babes... It is spiritual pride to close yourself off fromrepparttar 122407 possibility of seeing Truth in anything and everything. Inquisitiveness & Radical Honesty Developrepparttar 122408 ability to question everything. Bring every motive and avoidance of reality torepparttar 122409 light of truth in a radically honest way. Learn to face life with open arms and open eyes. This will rapidly change your perception ofrepparttar 122410 world and yourself. Deep contemplative inquiry allows us to discover and dismantle our story and our programs or patterns. Questioning works especially well on belief systems that we have adopted through our cultural / social conditioning. For an excellent book on 'self inquiry' seerepparttar 122411 book by A H Almaas onrepparttar 122412 Self Stream page.

All of these avenues can be explored further in different places onrepparttar 122413 WFIH website... seerepparttar 122414 Body Work page,repparttar 122415 Energy Work page, Emotional Clearing page & Integral Spirituality page. There are courses and tests and information available as well. (see below)

Sebastian, Founder of Worldwide Fellowship of Integral Humans (a grassroots organization encouraging personal and global evolution) Student of Spirituality for 35 years, Writer & Spiritual Counselor.

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