Can I solve money problems?

This is greatest cause of marital problems. Some can not provide money to support family, and where money is available, problem is overspending. In end, families have become heavily indebted, while others pack to live with their parents. In extreme cases, divorce becomes solution.

Do I have a compatible mate?

Being compatible does not mean that you and your partner must agree on everything under sun. Or that your mate should be able to play baseball since you are a baseball star. No.

But if you are miles apart on almost everything -- work, recreation, attitude, and beliefs, you should know that you are not equally matched.

Consider one woman who thought that her marriage must work because her partner was so handsome, so strong, such a good athlete and very popular. Was she being realistic? No. She was dreaming of Shangri-La, or building castles in air, as they say. The marriage collapsed!

Have I thoroughly examined myself?

So ask yourself if you are type that can make vows and keep them. Ask if your goals in life will affect your marriage. Find out if you can support or manage a household. Check to see if you are mature to handle trials that will surface later in marriage.

If your answers are positive, if you think that you have physical, mental and spiritual maturity to go into marriage, then ask yourself this question; what are keys to family happiness? Do you know them?

Now, lets see.

(To be continued)

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If you pursue an unrealistic relationship, you will hurt yourself later. You may be disappointed by other person. And it may take you some time to regain your composure.

What do my parents and others say about relationship?

Your friends, or parents may draw your attention to dangers in your relationship. Would it not be wise for you to take a hard look at facts, and pack it up? After all, they have affection for you, and your parents who are older and wiser, should know better.

Will I be able to keep my courtship honorable?

This means that your relationship should not cross from seeing each other, to having premarital sex. So if your date decides to call off relationship, you would still have kept your chastity and moral integrity intact. The reverse is bad news.

The following are rules of dating.

Do not date until you are old enough and ready to get married.

Do not date someone you dont love.

Keep your relationship chaste.

Do not go to your date alone. Have a chaperon by you.

Be properly dressed, and be on time when you visit your date.

Keep your visit informal and relaxed. Converse and listen well.

Try to know as much as possible about your date.

Do not dodge sensitive matters. Discuss them.

In your discussion, find out how you are to live. Ask questions like these: Where are we to live? How many children shall we have? What type of birth control method shall we use? What is your role in our marriage? What type of work shall we do? How are we going to save our money? Do you have any health problem? Did you live a promiscuous sex life? Can we do a medical check up? Are you owing money? What are your life or religious goals? And many more. . .

Spend time with your mate in recreation and working together. Do daily chores like shopping, cooking, cleaning, and washing -- practical things that will help you later in marriage, and see how your mate fares.

Watch to see how your mate treats his parents and friends.

Observe him when in company of other people.

Watch him unobserved.

Do not be hasty in your courtship. If there are flaws in person you are dating or flaws in relationship that you think you cannot live with, break it up.

But now, how do you know that you are ready for marriage?

(To be continued)

Copyright ) 2002, all rights reserved

About Author:

ARTHUR ZULU, is author of best- selling book, HOW TO WRITE A BEST-SELLER. Download your copy and FREE excerpt at : http://www.1stbooks.com/bookview/10975 The above article is taken from a book of same title, and book is for sale. For contacts , mailto : controversialwriter@yahoo.com