Parenthood

You may find out that love you had for your mate now begins to drop when children start coming in. The reason may be that you no longer have time for each other, or your mate is now getting old. Is it time to sue for divorce?

Deceit

It may vex you to find out that you are living with an infidel, a betrayal of trust, and not a friend and confidant. Now, suppose you find out that your mate lied to you about his or her history before marriage? Or what if you find that your mate was cheating on you -- committing adultery?

Sex

Suppose your partner starts depriving you of sex? Or what if sex, which was supposed for enjoyment now becomes mechanical? Some have even used sex as a bargain tool -- buy me a Swiss gold watch, and I will give you sex!

Some wives have woken up after wedding day to find out that their husbands were impotents, or eunuchs. Husbands have also been told by their wives that they would die if they had sex together. Because they have husbands who satisfy their sexual desires in spirit world! What would you call that?

Superstition

This may also affect your marriage depending on where you live. Barrenness, miscarriages, unseen attacks, deaths and broken marriages have been supposedly caused by wicked spirits. Does this bother you? Maybe not. But know that wicked spirits exist.

Inlaws

If you allow your inlaws to intrude into your family, they may ruin your marriage. Both of you are now one, and should be able to solve your marital problems without frequenting your parents, or relations for advice.

Friends

What kinds of associates do you and your mate have? Are they unwholesome friends? They will not help your marriage. Know that bad company can corrupt good manners.

These are some of things may shipwreck a marriage. They may not be case with your family. But know that there is no perfect family on this earth. So there must be one kind of problem or other in your family. Now what are required to make a marriage successful?

(To be continued)

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In revealing Nam-myoho-renge-kyo, Nichiren gave rise to a revolutionary religion that promises to enable anyone to bring forth absolutely happy, courageous, wise, compassionate, creative and powerful condition called Buddhahood from within.

So was post-partum mom right? Was there something wrong with my upbringing? Did I miss some parental, spiritual lesson that would have saved me from Buddhism? No. My Christian parents taught me to treat others like I want to be treated, reach out to people with compassion, forgive, withhold scornful judgment, love, stand against injustice and be a person who creates peace. They taught me to work hard, learn all I can and think for myself.

[Full Expression] Being daughter of my bible-reading daddy and church-going mother, teachings of Christ will always hit a resounding chord within my soul. I feel that through Buddhist practice I fully express heart of those teachings. I believe that these same teachings are essence of what it means to be human.

For me, Nichiren Buddhism enables me to bring these core values to life every day. I think this is why there have even been times when my mother has picked up on a bad vibe I'm giving off and asked, "Have you been praying?" Ma hasn't asked me this often, but whenever my funky mood has led her to do so, truth is that I've hardly been praying at all. In her Southern Baptist, mother-love way, Ma leads me back to faith of my choice where I sit before my family's altar and chant Nam-myoho-renge-kyo until my heart is content.

M. LaVora Perry's words can also be read on Kids and "Peace Through Prayer" pages of her website: www.FortuneChildBooks.com

In 1995 author M. LaVora Perry became American Greetings'® (AG's) first African-American greeting card writer. Since then, her words have appeared on gift items worldwide.