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• TAKE EMOTIONAL RESPONSIBILITY:
* Attend to your feelings throughout day and explore what you may be doing that is causing painful feelings, rather than making others responsible for your feelings.
* Attend to your own needs rather than expecting others to meet your needs.
* Accept yourself rather than judge yourself. Validate yourself, approve of yourself – tell yourself things you want to hear from others. Value your talents and gifts.
* Value your intrinsic worth rather than just your looks or performance – your kindness, compassion, creativity, caring.
* Behave in ways that you value – being loving, kind, integreous, compassionate, understanding, caring.
* Pursue work you love, work that fulfills you, if possible.
• TAKE PHYSICAL RESPONSIBILITY:
* Feed yourself well to maintain health and appropriate weight.
* Get enough rest and exercise.
* Create balance between work and play and creative time.
* Make sure you are physically safe such as when riding a motorcycle.
• TAKE FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY:
* Make sure you are financially independent rather than dependent upon another, if physically able to do so.
* Spend within your means to avoid fear and stress of debt.
• TAKE RELATIONSHIP RESPONSIBILITY:
* Stand up for yourself and speak your truth rather than complying, defending or resisting in face of others’ demands or criticism. Don’t be a victim.
* Refrain from blaming others, with anger and criticism, for your feelings and behavior. Don’t be a victim.
• TAKE ORGANIZATIONAL RESPONSIBILITY:
* Do what you say you are going to do regarding time and chores.
* Make sure your living space and work environment are clean and tidy, and esthetically pleasing.
• TAKE SPIRITUAL RESPONSIBILITY:
* Take time to connect with love and truth of God/Higher Power.
* Take time throughout day to bring love down to level of your feeling self – your Inner Child.
Treating yourself in these loving ways will eventually result in feeling internally special rather than needing others to make you feel special.
As Jennifer practiced making herself special, she discovered that her relationships with others were becoming stronger and more fulfilling. People were no longer pulling away from her, resisting her, or defending themselves against her demands for attention. Her behavior naturally and gradually changed with others when she was treat herself as a special person.
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org. Phone sessions available.