The Nature of AngerWritten by Kevin B. Burk, Author of The Relationship Handbook
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respected by others. When someone crosses a boundary, that expectation has not been met. The first thing we do is grieve death of expectation that other people will respect our boundaries. We feel unsafe because our boundary has been violated. But we also experience fear. We're afraid that things will never change: that our boundaries will not protect us because other people will not honor them. Our anger, however, is what allows us to change this. Our anger gives us strength to defend ourselves. Our anger gives us power and courage to stand up and demand that our boundaries be respected. Our anger, in fact, enables us to feel safe again. Expressing our anger helps us to redefine and reinforce our boundaries. We know we can defend ourselves, and therefore we feel safe.
When we don't express our anger in healthy, conscious ways, we buy into fear that things will never change. We feel unsafe. More importantly, we expect that we will always feel unsafe. Unexpressed anger inevitably turns to resentment and depression.
Anger is our call to awareness. Our anger encourages us to become conscious of a limiting belief. The key to experiencing anger in a healing way is to own our anger. We can then choose how to express our anger. We do not need to lash out, nor do we need to hurt anyone with our anger. Instead, we can choose to alter our thinking, change limiting belief, and reclaim another piece of our true selves. When we embrace and understand true nature of anger, anger can empower us, and help us to feel truly safe.
Kevin B. Burk is the author of The Relationship Handbook: How to Understand and Improve Every Relationship in Your Life. Visit http://www.everyrelationship.com for a FREE report on creating AMAZING Relationships.
Ghost Story - Investigating The Old Agnews Hospital Written by Gloria Young
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We opted for left side first. We walked halfway down hall and heard a few noises, we all stopped dead in our tracks. It was nothing. The creaks and groans of an old building. We walked all way to end without anything further happening.We just started to make our way down right side of hallway. This floor had to have about 28 rooms on this floor, 14 to left and 14 to right. All rooms were various sizes from small patient rooms to larger, perhaps office-type rooms. Some had bathrooms, some didn't. As we approached what was maybe third room on this right side of hallway, one investigator went into a room and immediately came back out and told us of a cold spot. We had two more people go in with him and rest stayed in hall. In this area, hair on back of my neck stood up, girl next to me told me she was getting really cold and then we looked across hall to see and hear remnants of a door slam shut. The people in room came out quickly and asked what that was. We told them door behind us just slammed shut. They said it was really cold in that room and that they felt like they were being watched. We switched places with them and indeed room was cold, very cold. We all took readings and pictures and video. After a few more minutes of waiting we decided that since there was nothing further in hall or in that room we would continue on. We completed that floor and ascended to third floor. There was nothing up there. It was as quiet as first floor. There was just a bunch of old rooms with boxes and papers and dirt all around. We decided to make our way down to first floor.As we passed through second floor, two people decided to detour into cold room we were in earlier and discovered it was no longer cold. The door that had slammed shut earlier was now open again. As we descended second floor, one person told us to stop and we did. You could tell she was straining to hear something, even turning her head toward whatever she was listening to. The rest of us didn't hear anything. She said she couldn't make out what it was but she heard a faint voice.We all went home that night knowing that this was last time we would be able to go through this old convalescent hospital because in two weeks building would be gone for good. They were going to put up a Sun Microsystems campus on that very spot. We wondered what would become of people left behind...the old man calling out for his nurse, woman calling out for someone to 'come here' and other things that were happening on that floor. We checked and double-checked our readings, pictures and video from that evening. We did catch pictures of orbs and although we feel we did catch EVP from one room that night, it is very, very difficult to hear. Our thoughts still wander to that night and wonder if those people are now wandering halls of Sun Microsystems. We felt that this was one of those places that we would have loved to go into again and to research it differently. We feel very lucky to have had that opportunity and one day we will contact Sun Microsystems and see what is happening on second floor these days.
Gloria Young has been a ghost hunter and paranormal investigator for over 10 years. She has dedicated her life to researching paranormal activity. She has written, "Faces of a Ghost Hunter" as well as three other books. She founded the paranormal research group, "Ghost Trackers". She has co-produced two documentaries on ghost hunting. (www.ghost-trackers.org)