The Narcissist and His FriendsWritten by Sam Vaknin
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Gradually, social circle of narcissist dwindles (and ultimately vanishes). People around him who are not turned off by ugly succession of his acts and attitudes – are rendered desperate and fatigued by turbulent nature of narcissist's life.
Those few still loyal to him, gradually abandon him because they can no longer withstand and tolerate ups and downs of his career, his moods, his confrontations and conflicts with authority, his chaotic financial state and dissolution of his emotional affairs. The narcissist is a human roller coaster – fun for a limited time, nauseating in long run.
This is process of narcissistic confinement.
Anything which might – however remotely – endanger availability, or quantity of narcissist's Narcissistic Supply is excised. The narcissist avoids certain situations (for instance: where he is likely to encounter opposition, or criticism, or competition). He refrains from certain activities and actions (which are incompatible with his projected False Self). And he steers clear of people he deems insufficiently amenable to his charms.
To avoid narcissistic injury, narcissist employs a host of Emotional Involvement Prevention Measures (EIPMs). He becomes rigid, repetitive, predictable, boring, limits himself to "safe subjects" (such as, endlessly, himself) and to "safe conduct", and often rages hysterically (when confronted with unexpected situations or with slightest resistance to his preconceived course of action).
The narcissist's rage is not so much a reaction to offended grandiosity as it is outcome of panic. The narcissist maintains a precarious balance, a mental house of cards, poised on a precipice. His equilibrium is so delicate that anything and anyone can upset it: a casual remark, a disagreement, a slight criticism, a hint, or a fear.
The narcissist magnifies it all into monstrous, ominous, proportions. To avoid these (not so imagined) threats – narcissist prefers to "stay at home". He limits his social intercourse. He abstains from daring, trying, or venturing out. He is crippled. This, indeed, is very essence of malignancy that is at heart of narcissism: fear of flying.
Sam Vaknin ( http://samvak.tripod.com ) is the author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East. He served as a columnist for Central Europe Review, PopMatters, and eBookWeb , and Bellaonline, and as a United Press International (UPI) Senior Business Correspondent. He is the the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101.
The Irish IssueWritten by Robert Bruce Baird
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What a wonderfully careful Government it was, too. The movie Far and Away portrays a little of situation and Michael Collins with Liam Neeson states there had been 700 years of war in its opening scroll. The English sent scientists to discover effects of blight on potato crops as well as effects of starvation on people, despite their lesser 'civilized' nature. They didn't even return a reasonable portion of taxes they collected from Ireland during Famine. The papers in London ridiculed and satirized (in inimitable English intellect of Hume et. al.) 'unsettled' or adle-brained drunken Irish, who could offer no more resistance.
"As they were unable to pay rack rent to absentee landlord, thousands of starving ones were thrown out, and other thousands threatened to be thrown out of their wretched homes, to perish on roadside. In consequence frenzied poor men shot a few of vilest of land-agents and landlords. At opening of Parliament in January '46, Queen Victoria, addressing her 'Lords and Gentlemen' observed, with deep regret, fearful situation In Ireland-adding-'It will be our duty to consider whether any measure can be devised, calculated to give peace and protection for life there.'
The simple reader, who knows not way of British with Ireland, would here naturally come to conclusion that tender-hearted gentlewoman, full of sympathy… was directing her Parliament to try to save a multitude of lives. But this would be a mistaken conclusion. She was here referring to handful of Anglo-Irish landlords and agents, whose lives must solicitously be protected whilst, in trying times, they were endeavouring to hack and hew their usual pound of flesh from walking skeletons in bogs and mountains of Ireland. Some of these thoughtless ones were in danger of slaying a landlord rather than see him slay their famished wife, or hollow-eyed children. Hence good Queen advised her 'Lords and Gentlemen' that a stringent Coercion Bill was needed, and must be provided to relieve unfortunate conditions prevailing in Ireland.  -Notes: Among other benefits which excellent Bill proposed to confer upon suffering people, it rendered liable to fourteen years transportation away for anyone found out of his own house after sun set in evening and before it arose in morning. In operation of this beneficial Act many things occurred, that to an outsider might seem strange. For instance John Mitchell records such happenings as that of a quiet respectable farmer, who on a summer evening, when sun was near setting, strolled a short way down road to pay his working-men and walking back when sun had just sunk-though it was still broad daylight-was arrested for heinous crime against 'the Queen and Constitution of this realm.’" (6)
Hitler had to pay his guards just like Turks who made first fenced concentration camps around this time (for care of Armenians). Of course ghettoes were a form of concentration camp that cost administrative countries that had Jews a very little amount of money. This was especially true when they were inclined periodically to dispossess them of their treasure. The Romish churchians had learned benefits of not being an Empire and having to share booty with citizens of Rome in earlier times. Christianity should be studied as pre-eminent marketing plan of this whole era we call 'his'-story. Is there a possibility that Jews and Irish are a threat to someone for something to do with history? Is it their inclination to regard Jesus as a man who preached truths like divinity and freedom of each soul while on Earth? You would have to study what went on at Synod of Whitby in 664 AD in order to get a feel for reason date of Easter had to be changed and to know Celtic Church and their monastic Orders like Iona (in Emerald Isles and in places like Greek Islands) were a real threat to Rome. Then you would know Jewish and Irish perception that Jesus was a prophet and not a Messiah was part of it.
The Irish were hounded and pursued, ridiculed and beat upon in all ways or methods available to man. In America as indentured slaves or Civil War soldiers (both sides, Rebel Yell is Keltic war cry) they were worse off than blacks or Chinese. Over course of a long time they lost even bulk of their verbal tradition. Their knowledge of Celtic Cultural Age some call Atlantis is almost non-existent. The Ossianic tales and legends bear close scrutiny despite what Hume and Gibbon have written. Taliesin was more of a fabricator or fancy and Frank Lloyd Wright was enamoured of him. It is worth noting status of blacks in Christian church as well as excellent civil rights record of this church that has been dominant force in Western society through all Crusades and other heretical inquisitions and divisive tactics. Gradualistic god-guided 'chosen ones' who reach rapture or Goff, due to their elitist prejudices are soon going to get their karmic due I hope. The cells of cultural adepts like de Danaan are getting more support as archaeology uncovers things like Gimbutas' Old European alphabet even if gods of archaeology cling to Sumer like they did to Clovis. Richard Rudgely isn't only one to notice if things don't fit prevailing theory they require different standards or are thought to be a hoax. His credentials are impeccable just as were Campbell's and Gimbutas'.
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